How can I increase my self-esteem?
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As a person, always know you are NOT "nothing". If he put you down, it was because he was insecure about himself and liked to vent on someone who would put up with it. Always respect yourself. Keep telling yourself youre a nice person and deserving of kind treatment. Think of all your attributes, smile, stand up straight when you walk and pamper yourself !
stay away from men like him. learn the cycle of violence of men on women.
look at the good you do daily. never beleive an a... again.
read up on women empowerment too.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic...
see out women who have been abused and got stronger from it.. many of them out there!
Write little note to selfs before you go to bed. Tape them to the bathroom mirror, so when you wake up in the morning, the first thing you feel is happiness. Write things such as
Note to self:
You are so beautiful
Note to self:
You are such a romantic
Note to self:
You are doing great in life
Note to self:
I wish I could date me
ya know? It really does help =D
go to a spa day and treat yourself to things you love...but it won't leave you with a long lasting "good feeling"...try to stay super busy with things that u enjoy like art class, music, sports? so that you get a great feeling about who you are and what you can do! good luck...
juzz forget him...
dont mind what he says
be a positive thinker
if you want to be happy.......
be happy
I have been right where you are now, trust me it will get better. Try listening to up beat music that makes ya feel good and really listen to the lyrics. Or you can write down what you like about your self. If worse comes to worse you should maybe get a therapist. I had to get one cause i had to get one when i got to the lowest point possible and she really helped me alot. Hope this helps, and just remeber all things heal over time, just hand in there!
first buy the pussycat dolls & pink cd and listen to them over and over. go to a salon and get yourself a new do.the works.hair, mani, pedi and if you can afford it a good massage. realize you don't need a man in your life to have a fabulous one! join a jazzercise class if they have one near you..this is not only one of the best exercise classes i've ever done because you lose weight but you leave the class feeling wonderful. the instructors are motivating and it's more like dancing than exercise. don't think about attracting men.that will happen. think about you. read books .. not the oh woah is me kind.the bergdorf blonde {plum skyes} kind.it's hilarious! laugh and enjoy yourself.
There's a good book out that was written for folks like you. It's called "Real Magic" by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. It teaches you how to be happy, successful, healthy and prosperous in daily living through positive thinking. I hope you read it. Good Luck!
Find all the good things that you can do. And yes there are things that everyone is good at, you make a list. You find those and you concentrate JUST on those. Go and make specific dates to do those things.
A man can only do that to you if you let him. There is no way a woman that is confident in her self would let a man do that to her. I know I been there. I have been in some abusive relationships and it was horrible. After this last one I took some time away from dating conentrated on my school and me. I did some reflection gained some knowledge and start looking at myself in a differnt prespective. You know what I found. No matter what anyone said I am a good person and I am beautiful. Fat or not I am. I have a good heart and soul. I discovered myself and you can to. Some self help books really help. But I recommend watching Diary of a mad black women. Tyler perry has a very good and christian message in his movies. THis movie really made me think. Its about a abused woman that finds herself and is able to love again in a heathy realtionship. That is what happned to me I date now and you should see the men I date. Educated no abuse have good jobs and they are confident in themselves. I haven't found the right one. But I am not worried he is out there in teh mean time I have met lots of good friends on the way. Take a postive attituded get a couple self help books, rent that movie,.and do some self reflection you will find yourself. And you will discover that it is ok to love you. Even if you have imperfections you are a good person. Good luck
Change what you believe about yourself.
You are an independent person.
What he did to you is called abuse.
His words are not you. They are just his words.
When you start to love yourself you do not need to have someone else confirm who you are.
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