It takes me a lot of time to get out if sadness if i have to deal with a sad situation?
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You may have disconnected from your emotions totally as a way to kill the pain of when your mother died. It may take a lot of work to get back to where you can deal with the emotions of things as they happen to you, and not months later. I think you have a little policeman in your head saying "no, you can't feel that, that's not allowed" which is not a good thing. I'm not a mental health professional, but try to find a way to take the brakes off your emotions. It's OK to feel sad if your cat dies, or if your boyfriend breaks up with you, or if your girlfriend calls you a silly cow behind your back or whatever. That's normal! It's also OK to get mad at people when they deserve it. Tell your girlfriend to stop saying these things about you! The things people let their friends get away with - honestly!
But seriously, when I was a kid, my older brothers really ridiculed me if I cried, so I stopped. I didn't cry again until I was 22 and found out my Dad had cancer (he's OK now). But I really broke down and cried hysterically about it when I was with my girlfriend because I was so scared he would die. My girlfriend broke up with me because of it! (sweet girl she was). But I felt so freed. Now I cry at the slightest thing from Free Willy to stories about kittens getting rescued from trees. It's much better this way, except my wife teases me sometimes. All the best.
i don't think that ur depressed but i think it would be essential for you to find yourself a new social circle that means join a lot of social activities(if u like to read join a book club) and not just one thing, a LOT of things so that ur distracted and that u dont have time to think believe me it works bcause someday your negativity vanishes or if u have found someone to talk to about everything ull be confronted by it and ull get over it but now i know ur in a state in which friends are important to support u. At the beginning it will be difficult when ur new in those clubs and stuff but after that it will be absolutely fun! And plz try it try it try it!!
Where are your friends? Talking with others help. It's okay to have grief. But to hold onto it is another matter entirely. Especially if it is not really affecting you directly.
Ex-Your friends aunt died...
If something like that keeps you down for days then you may need to seek out therapy. Try not to be so obsessive
Start Journaling...and get into a more positive surrounding.
Maybe you need to think to yourself what has triggered this sadness.. did the sadness occur befor your mother died?.. or after? is indeed after i think you need to deal with these issues as they probably will have something to so with it, its understandable that you feel like the whole world is on your shoulders at times and that you cannot think of anything else apart from the sad sitituin you find yourself in... I may be totaly wrong but i just thought i would give you my opinion
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Take care
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