What to expect?
Question:
What can I expect at that visit and what should I say?
What can I expect afterwards and in the long-term?
I am 18 just out of high school and I live with my mom, my stepfather and my three siblings, what is the best way to break this news to them, they have no idea what is going on. Should I just let the doctor do the talking?
I am nervous about everyone knowing my problems and worrying about me, I don't want to have any one worrying over me but I DO need the help, I cannot live this way any longer, I even took some more pills today even though I had been on top of things since last Wednesday when I was really messed up due to pills and drinking. I just want things to stop, but I am not looking forward to putting this stress on my family.
Some encouraging words please...?
Answers:
Ya know what? I am dealing with this with my son, PLEASE, go to the doctor, first thing. Then, tell him or her you have problems that you need to discuss and that they are quite serious.
Do NOT leave out one thing, tell him or her everything.
Explain to the doctor that you do not want to be this way and that you do not like being miserable all the time.
You can make it in life without the drinking and the cutting, and the pills. BUT, you won't make it if you continue.
Throw the pills away tonight, and wake up tommorow and start a whole new beginning and go to the doctors.
Good Luck
Contact me and let me know how it went, I am very concerned.
karenpghblue@ayhoo.com
be honest,they will be there for you,after all you are taking the right step,i wish you the best.
umm stop cutting, pill popping, and drinking?
Be honest with your self and the doctor if you really want help..else you are wasting everyones time...Write down why you want to stop and get healthy and keep this with you at all times. Good luck..addiction is a hard habit to break..
Be completely honest with your doctor. If you are feeling anxiety (like stressed out) explain how you feel. If you are depressed (can't do anything) or suicidal, you need to explain that too. IF the doctor doesn't appear to be very helpful, you have to find another doctor! Call mental health facilities and ask for some phone numbers. They offer counselling services as well, some places are free. Being honest about what is happening in your mind, is the only way to get a solution.
I am sure your family will be very supportive and hope for the best for you and a healthy recovery.
You may be surprised to know the MD will (or should be) very supportive and ask the questions just let the answers of it all come out honestly - an MD can not really discuss your problems with another because of his oath - you may want one member to be your "support" to hear news and offer treatment options in the event you are to sick to do so - but otherwise your MD is trusted between you two.
If you want your family to know everything tell them.
Or tell them you are getting help you need it! The first step is the hardest after that - you'll be glad you did this.
I don't know your family but if they care about you you may learn to realize they may have your back!
You can authorize the doctor to sit and explain everything to your mom and stepdad. Honesty is best. And if they know what is going on with you, they can be supportive. If it's an intake with a psychiatrist, they'll just sit with you and ask you all sorts of questions to get an idea of what's going on inside of you. You might be prescribed medication to help you cope with the feelings that lead you to this behavior. If you do weekly therapy and such, you'll pretty much sit and talk with your counselor about you and what's going on inside. It might not be an easy process, but trust me it's worth it. Good luck and remember to be completely honest so you get the most out of treatment.
If you go there telling them that you are actively attempting suicide you will be hospitalized. Expect that. Howvever, that's not a bad thing.
They're going to just ask you questions about how you feel and what you think. Then they'll determine the best course of therapy for you.
Acknowledging that you need help is a phenominal step. If you stay committed to your own recovery you can and will come out of this a healthier person.
As for informing your family...depending on how things go either the doctor or you can tell them what you choose. You say they have no idea but they must have some. Just tell them that you've decided to see a therapist to help you feel better. I'm sure they'll support that decision.
Best of luck to you. Stay strong!
Hey Sweetie,
First of all, I am incredibly impressed that you are taking the reins on getting treatment! The good thing about mental illness is that it is HIGHLY treatable! So BRAVO to you :)
I'm a therapist so maybe I can help. First of all please people know that people in our profession have heard and seen it all...and I mean IT ALL! So know that your story will not come as a shock to your Doctor. I am saying this beacause I do not want you to hold back due to fear of judgement.
As therapist, it is crucial for us to be able to know what the problem is, please do not be shy to let us know, we are there to help!! Sadly, we are not psychic so we cannot read your mind...SPEAK UP! Let us know what your feeling and we can help you work to feel better.
As for you family, you would put much more stress on them by hiding your ailments from them. Would it not be more stressful if you popped to many pills, drank, passed out and died? Now thats stress...you wanting to get help and realizing you need help, thats empowering!! You should be so proud of yourself, good luck you can do it!
sounds like depression , the doctor will tell u whats wrong, then he will prescribe u a treatment. in this case might be a good idea to also get a 2nd opinion from another doctor. but if it is depression he will prescribe u an anti-depressant, and mention a psychiatry's. when the doctors ask u a question , dont hide any thing answer it as truthful as possable. then pay attention to what the doctor has to say, dont be afraid to ask questions. if u dont ask u may never know. please, good luck and best wishes
Be completely honest with your Doctor. They are here to help. I know that life is hard baby but u have to try to be strong. The Doctors can help u find a good support system if your family is n't there to comfort you. I dont know if you should or shouldnt tell your parents about whats going with you because I dont know what type of parents you're dealing with but if u ever need someone to talk to, im all ears, very patient and comforting. Holla, if u need to chat boo. Keep ya head up. MUAH!
Don't worry about adding stress to your family. They are probably already worried about you, and it is better for everyone if you are getting the right help for you.
In the mean time, please call SAFE. They can help you understand what is happening and they can help you know what to expect as you begin your recovery.
SAFE (Self-Abuse Finally Ends)
1-800-DONT-CUT (1-800-366-8288)
http://www.selfinjury.com/
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