Am I too needy and scare men off?
Question:
usually I dont flirt with men unless they look hot,
but i dont ever get a call back from them,
or even a "thank you" message after I give them an act-of-kindness(bday,good luck) card!!
am I too needy,should i play more hard-to-get or are they just jerks?
Answers:
First of all, you should focus on something besides looks. I love my husband, he's my best friend, he's the one I want to talk to and share everything, and he feels the same, but he's not my "dream" man. I do love his *** though...very hot.
When I met him, I wasn't interested because I had planned to move, but I found him intriguing and interesting, and open.
Don't expect anything from anyone you just met - they don't owe you anything because you talked to them.
Try putting the focus on them, ask them a lot of questions, don't expect them to pay for anything, try to talk about things they like. After you establish a relationship, then you can start to expect more, but make sure you think of a relationship as a bank, the more you deposit, the more you will get in return.
Hope that helps.
Yeah maybe you should be hard to get and don't get them gifts and stuff they should be giving you things.
well some boys are just jerks but if they dont like you then just try to find someone who is your type or if you have a really good friend that you like then just ask him to hang out sometime and see what hes like...i do that all the time
It's probably a combo of the two. You may not be needy, but sending a card to a person that you are not good friends with or dating pretty steadily is going to make them think you are. A simply "Hope you had a nice birthday" the next time you see them is good. Play it cool and have your own life,and you will be fine with or without them.
Well not to sound rude but you say you only flirt with men who are hot. So maybe you need to widen your scope a little. Maybe you could let an ok looking funny guy get a wink from you. Or the chubby bear guy whos incredibly huggable and sweet. I dont see anything that would suggest your are needy. How can you be needy in a relationship when youve never been in a relationship. I say dont be so shallow.
Brighten your horizons. Don't only flirt with the 'good looking' fellas. Flirt with the ones that are interested in you. Give everyone a chance. You may wind up with the man of your dreams.
Maybe the reason you dont get a call back is cause their out of your league. Usually someone hot will get a call back. Im not trying to be mean and I know Im gonna get a lot of thumbs down for this one, but its probably true... but then again I dont know how you look or how you act. If you were hot yourself, wouldnt you think ud get a call back? Especially if it happens all the time.
Honestly...girl...its KARMA. If you only flirt with guys that are "hot", then its definitely going to bite you in the ***. Learn to read people from the inside and try to know guys of all types and kinds. Not play hard to get...thats not going to get you anywhere. Stop being superficial and you'll start seeing some real changes in your life, cos then you'll actually EARN friendships. And those friendships will develop out of mutual respect and not superficial feelings. Its so obvious. Live a little! And take a few risks!
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