I dont know what to do..is it too late?

Question:

i have known this guy all my life (we are both 14 i know he needs real help but please just read it) he has always been with the skater/druggie people. we have always kinda been friends..but know everything has changed. two years ago he started smoking pot. i didnt really mind most of the guys did it wasnt all that bad he would only do it once a month at the most. but then he began using more and more until pot just wasnt enough. when pot stopped satisfying his drug craving he started to use harder and harder drugs, now he is high almost all of the time. he doesn't come from the richest of families its actually very dysfunctional. he has two brothers both older one hates his mother (his parents are divorced and hate/never help one another) and his middle aged brother that is 16 is a party guy that uses drugs as well but he has not hit rock bottom quite as hard as my friend. last year in the middle of second semester his father sent him to military school in a different state because

Answers:
Don't tell us this, tell him this.

First of all, he has to WANT help. Until then, there's nothing you can do.

I would also suggest that you contact your local social services agency or mental health assistance agency and tell them that you're concerned for a friend's mental/physical health...but not in detail-only answer what you're asked. They may be able to point you in the direction of some resources.

Good luck, honey. You're a compassionate friend.

You sound like a great friend. However, regardless of age, you need to focus on your life and move forward. Your friend has made his own choices and will have to live with the consequences. The only he will ever stop is if HE WANTS TO. I know its rough but no good will come out of this for you and if he wants to use he will regardless of what you or anyone else says. Best of Luck

well, i think you need to grow up - why blame his parents, why are you avoiding the FACT, that your friend chose to get into drugs for no other reason than he wanted too..
do you think his family are happy about it, do you think they encouraged him to get into drugs, hmmm i think the answer is No.

the only person that can help your friend is himself, if he doesn't want to give up, nobody can make him.
i bet if you told him you would help, he would laugh at you because he will/does not think he has a problem.

keep away from him and see this situation for what it really is.

the only thing i can say is never give up on youth they can superize you know other people are going to answer better than me but maybe you shuold listen to him see what he is going thru his point of view. If you feel he is about to make a connection ask his parents or mom for one more chance
all i know to do is be there for him, not for giving money but to have someone to listen to frienship can be the best therapst there is so never give up on youth
there isnt much you can do if he doent want help

There is not much you can do until he wants help.

As is the case when anyone has a problem with anything.

Nothing will change unless the person wants change.

I wish I could offer you a magic solution but in reality there is none.

If you are so set on helping him, tell your parents about the situation. See if they'll pay to have this guy treated before he dies--otherwise what can you do?!
You're only 14 with no means to really reach out--your parents would be the only way. (assuming the guy accepted your offer)
Good luck

I dont know what to do..is it too late?

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