Sexually Abused...?
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this is a very difficult thing to do...make sure you are in a place within yourself where you can discuss it without the intesive emotion that has you break down...i would (and have) stated it as fact and just said i wanted to let you know as i didn't have the information previously...something to that effect...good luck to you and i wish you peace with this...
who or what benefit on earth will it make anyway....there are so many problems around..why u wanna bring out a problem which is so old..find some new one or find me rather..
sometimes flatout truth can strengthen a relationship more than anything
don't tell him about this. If you need counseling then seek it but it's not necessary for your partner to know about this. I would not say anything.
well, if you already told them about it, i would tell them what else you found out. i would NOT dwell on the details with them OR in your own mind/heart.
Just tell him ...
You have to do what feels right for you. I know many people who have been through this sort of situation and what is right for one person is not neccesarily right for another. Take your time and work out what you want to do or say and how to do it. You are the most important one in all of this.
It is difficult for loved ones to hear about things like this, so if you decide to tell him it is important to let him know that he is allowed to have feelings and concerns about the issue too and that it is okay for him to express them to you.
No. What good would come of it. It wasn't your fault and you don't even remember it. Why dig up a past that has had absolutely no impact on your life. If you need to know then find out, but don't share it with your partner. At your age he may not even be around in a few years. People change a lot in their early 20's. Sorry it happened to you, but get on with your life
i am a survivor of sexual abuse. in his book abused boys mic hunter says that a survivor should never come out until they are perpared for the worst case. i do believe you need to talk with your hubby, especially now that you've dropped the bomb on him. however i will caution against expecting much. just as others have said here, he will likely see it as something that happened long ago. you should just move on.
can i ask if you are having issues now? it isnt unusual for this to come back and cause you problems as you get older. since you apparently have no memory of it, maybe you can just move foward. i hope so.
as for telling him, there is no easy way sometimes. you just sit down and throw it out there. good luck.
First find out what happend, then maybe you should talk to someone and get the help for yourself. Then after talking and getting beyond what ever happened or to a point you want to share it, then talk to who you think you need to. Please make sure you talk and get to where you feel safe first.
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First of all sorry that you had to go through such horrific things, secondly you are very brave. From what you have said your partner is understanding with what happened. It is totally up to you to tell your partner everything. If you find talking about it too upsetting, try writing a letter to him and giving him time to read it and take it all in and to try to understand it all. There is nothing to feel ashamed about, and it is not your fault.
If you need help, support and advice this website may help you, it is for survivors of abuse and rape, and is somewhere you can get your words out in a safe environment without feeling judged.
Hope this helps
You just do it. It was years ago it should not affect anything now, because you are an adult and so is your partner. It is a part of your life and so is he, therefore; it shouldn't be any form of an issue. I
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