How do i get rid of anger and hurt?
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I can only tell you what worked for me at the advise of my psychologist friend. Write a letter to your ex pouring your heart out, how he betrayed you, hurt you, etc... Then seal it up as if you are going to send it to him. You then have the choice of putting it away somewhere (keeping it) or burning it. The idea is when you seal the letter after you write it, you are sealing out his ability to ever hurt you again. Plus you got to vent everything on your mind. Start fresh!
You just have to let it go, or let it eat you up. It is your choice.
Give it to God. He can carry you past all of it. He can take it away. You can laugh but it's true! Give it to Him and leave it there. He wants you to.
take up boxing.then beat him up
i know this sounds stupid, but try buying cheap ceramic plates and throw them towards a wall, shout obscenities and let all your anger out. but do remember to be safe. ^_^
Accept what has happened....go forward and do not look back. Make it history and look at it as if you have learned a lesson.
Couseling, it's the only way. You've been hurt badly and you need to admit you can't deal with it alone, no one can, we're all human beings after all.
Having him sent away to jail might bring some closure, but it won't ease the pain. Please, seek a couselor, they are professionals and deal with exactly this kind of situation.
And yes, he is a scoundrel ;)
a phycologist will no what to do
If you believe in God than you put this in Gods hands and he will give you the strength you seek to deal with this. You walk away and never look back. Thank God your not maried to him:)
God Bless you
Forgive, forget, heal and move on. The harboring of these useless emotions will eat you upinside and deminish you as a person, he is what he is, you can't control that, you are you that is in your power to change! Keep strong and don't loose sight of your goal.
you have already started on your way by recognizing what kind of scoundrel he is. now the healing part comes when you walk away. you don't have to be bothered with him or his grandma. he will never change and when he does it to the next person, he may not be so lucky this time. so just have faith that he will be who he was meant to be and karma will catch up with him. and his grannie accomplice.
Talk to a counselor or join a support group. Don't bottle up the anger.
First, make sure you have no contact with him or his friends or family. If anyone brings him up in a conversation, tell them you don't want to hear about him. I think the more you hear about him, the worse your feelings are going to be.
Second, keep yourself busy physically. Run, bike, swim, dance, etc. I've found that physical activity helps burn off anger and stress.
Third, try writing down your exact feelings. Don't censor yourself at all. When you're done writing for that day, burn, shread or do whatever to get rid of what you wrote. It's a way to get rid of the feelings in a figurative sense.
Fourth, you can try releasing your feelings. I close my eyes and breathe slowly and deeply until I'm calm. Then in my head I say to myself, "I am releasing all my <insert negative feelings here> and will not feel this way anymore. These are no longer my feelings." This is what was the most helpful to me a few years ago when I was extremely angry and bitter over a certain situation.
Whatever, you do hold your feelings in because it will eventually eat you up inside.
Anger is a really tenacious emotion, keeps on coming out when you least expect it.
Try getting a swim noodle, or a "hulk hand" ( kids toy) and go to your bedroom and beat the living you-know-what out of your bed or wall. Screaming really loudly also helps get the anger out of your body. just warn any one else in the house what you are going to do. they might think you are a little crazy, but that is ok.
the physical act of making your anger outward really helps to get rid of it. I also sometimes scream when i am in my car by my self.
If you keep anger inside you it doesn't go away, it just hides and comes out at an inappropriate time like when you are eating(and you overeat to make it feel better), or when you are fighting with someone and all of a sudden you are completely over-reacting.
Good luck
You have to forgive him - because right now he has power over you - you have to release him and let him go because you spend your waking moments thinking about him and what he has done and how you want him to hurt as much as you hurt and how you want to get back at him. You rehearse it in your mind and you tell whomever will listen and the more you do it the madder your get and the now you have resentment and bitterness inside of you and he is going about his merry little way. I am not saying what he did doesn't hurt and I am not saying that it is easy and that your pain is not real. Whenever we are mistreated and disrespected especially by someone we love it hurts and cuts deeply. But in order for you to move on and get rid of the anger and hurt that you have inside of you - you have to forgive him and release him from inside of you. You have to let him go and knowing that you cannot change anything and believing that he will get caught one way or another. The only way you're going to heal is to get rid of the debris of your past nger, resentment, disappointment, hatred and negative emotions. You have to become more peaceful with yourself and then it will reflect on how you will treat and respect others. So you have the power to release those bonds just as you have the power to keep all that has you bound up inside.
You can start by making a list of all the people in your life past or present who you had any kind of beef with. Now, systematically work your way through the list and clear them of anything that they have wronged you in your life - clear yourself of all the bad feelings you have surrounding them. Realize that any of these reatlinships where you harbor ill feeling are literally holding you prisoner. Now you will like those you like more and you will not have any emotional charge to those who have wrong you and you will be watchful of anyone who comes to you before handing over the reins of your life for them to steer you in any direction.
Decide that you want to be heal and start working through the process to get restored.
Hope this helps.
Keep that anger and hurt, as a reminder to avoid others like him. Just be sure that you are rid of him.
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