What should I do about my therapist?
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find a new doc
Ohhh sweetheart are you serious? If so, you need to terminate your sessions with this man immediately. I mean immediately. What he is doing is extremely unprofessional and dependant and he is not helping you- he is fullfilling his own sick needs- CRYING?? when you attempted to leave?? You should report him, he's not stable. You don't have to give a reason, just call his secretary and tell her you are terminating your sessions.
Uhm, some psychiatrists go bonkers - at least that's what I know from experience, especially when they don't have a strong personality. Maybe he's going on countertransference to you, where you symbolize something to him (eg, his wife who left him) - and this is why he hates you to leave him and yet he treats you badly as if has all the right to do so.
Accept that you have a personality problem, but you have to cut your dependence on him - this is bad and can really cause a painful feeling when you finalyl leave him. So that's better - get on with your life with a new therapist by your side.
Your therapist has issues darlin' Just cancel all appts and don't go back. Find a new one and remember they work for you.
this is weird.
I would not hesitate to move on...are you kidding?
YOU SHOULDNT HAVE TO BE HIS THERAPIST !!! SOUNDS LIKE HE NEEDS THE THERAPY ! DO LOTS BETTER AND FIND SOMEONE NEW. IF YOU CANT FIND ANYONE WE ALL CAN HELP HERE ONLINE !!
If you like this therapist and this incident has only happened this one time, give him the benefit of the doubt...Who knows, maybe he was not meaning to mock you but maybe he was trying to show you a side of yourself that you can't, or don't want to see. Or maybe he just happened to be having a bad day himself that day and let it slip over from his personal life into his professional life.
If it continues to happen though, I would put aside my fears of "starting over" and find someone else to go to because we go to counselors and therapists for them to try to help us not for us to have to deal with our problems AND theirs as well.
it truly sounds like he needs you more than you need him. i suggest just to stop going and to tell his secretary to cancel all future appointments. if that even doesn't work, just say you are moving away. it isn't right for him to do this. it is unprofessional and completely wrong. try and find someone who can help you more.
To be blunt, get out of there, don't go see him again. Secondly, you should ensure that this situation is reported appropriately.
He sounds like he's having some personal problems, and shouldn't be practicing, right now. If he works in a clinic, report it to the director of the clinic. If he's a private practitioner, report it to his Board. He's ethically obligated to refer you to someone else, and if he won't, call your local Mental Health Assn. The people there can refer you to someone else. Or, you can contact the APA, (American Psychiatric/Psychological Assn) to get referrals for the specialty that helps you the most.
Tell your therapist he needs help. He is not acting professionally. Could be that he could use a therapist himself. Just because he is a therapist, doesn't mean he doesn't have problems. (Just like a surgeon might need surgery too). He is supposed to be there to help "you" . . . not to cause you more problems. If it were I in your place, I would tell him I am confused and concerned about his actions and that you are no longer "comfortable" having him as your therapist. He should not be "crying" to "you" about ANYTHING. If he cries some more/gives you a hard time about it, then I would just tell him your decision is final. If he can't accept that, I would tell him that I would then have to report him to the medical board and the incidents that have occurred (which you probably should do anyway). But that is entirely up to you. You say he has helped you in many ways so I understand you being grateful to him for that and that you may even feel a certain "loyalty" because of that and because of the length of time (3 yrs.) that you have been seeing this therapist, that you both have formed some kind of "bond" which makes it hard for either one of you to let go. My instincts tell me though, that it is time to end this relationship (at least with this particular therapist), before more damage is done. If you feel you still need to go to therapy, I'm sure that you can find another therapist who is more professional and is good at what he does. I would even mention the situation that you last found yourself in, to your new therapist, because you will probably need to talk about it/need therapy for "that" now. Good luck and good health to you.
Well he could be really stressed out. They do get that way. They are suppose to go and see a therapist themself, so things like this does not happen. Crying is ok , if they are crying with you, cause of what you have gone through. just to be crying though, i think he needs to go and get some help himself from another therapist. There is a really high rate of them taking their own life. You got to remember how many people they see, and listen to . The day is was mean, well everyone has a bad day, as long as he don't keep that up. I think the therapist you are seeing needs to go and talk to a therapist himself, before he goes off of his rocker completely. I really feel that he is really stressed out, and have not been takeing care of himself , in the fact of going and talking to another therapist when he gets feeling this way, You really do not have to feel guilty, and please do not let him give you a guilty trip. If he keeps this up, i would change therapist.
I would agree with all the answerers here that this is a very bad situation and I would not even encourage you to try and resolve it or discuss it with him. Clearly he has his own issues and his behavior has irrevocably damaged the therapeutic relationship beyond repair and it would be next to impossible for you to work with someone who's judgment is so obviously questionable. You do not owe him a second chance or an explanation and his behavior warrants that you terminate the relationship immediately. I would encourage you to discuss your experience with the director of the agency where he is employed (or a professional licensing board if he is in private practice) in order to insure that he is monitored as he could cause harm to other clients if allowed to continue in this manner. The behavior you described is unequivocally inappropriate-trust your own judgment on this one!
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