How come when female sexually assualted she get really into sex?
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This is not true of everyone.
When a woman or child is raped, there is almost always some emotion damage or trauma done, which, because of the nature of the attack, USUALLY manifests itself in different sexual preferences, like being overly dominant, violent, or so scared of sex she refuses to even masturbate.
Being agressive gives her power she felt she didn't have while being raped.
Being afraid 'protects' her from it ever happening again.
It really depends on the person. Some women are barely disturbted by it at all, some are emotionally paralyzed.
where did that conclusion come from?
What?
thats a generalization and not true for everyone thats been sexually assaulted
For me, I reached a point at a depressingly young age where I met a guy who finally did not scare the crap out of me...a truly amazing thing as in the past someone touching me even on the shoulder was enough to trigger a minor freakout or freezeup. When with this guy, I had this feeling...while I am with this person who doesnt scare me, I need to have sex now or i'll be too scared to ever even think of doing it willingly again. Then it was like something in my head...if I keep doing it, I wont be scared of it anymore. I also had the feeling that if I hadnt done it, I WOULD be too afraid no matter how much I tried to trust that person. It has been like that for some others I've talked to aswell...maybe its the norm?
I also find it to be more true of people who had extended cases of sexual assualt, especially at a young age, moreso then when its a one time thing.
I understand where you were trying to go with this. I have seen both spectrums of this issue, those that are withdrawn when in a sexual relationship, and others who can be very aggressive. I have asked this question of a therapist I know, and never really got a firm answer to it.
If I understand correctly, some women get the untrue message that they only thing they are good for is sex. (This is, of course, NOT TRUE!) They think that they become valuable by pleasing a man. They may think they have no worth except their sexuality. This is, of course, not true. This is one of the ways that the aggressor continues to control the victim for years afterward.
Other women respond in the opposite way, and don't want to have sex with men at all. Every woman is different.
she might be against sex completely kuz of all the diseases and she can be all 4 it kuz she is horney, wants some action, or wants to get into a serious relationship with a guy.
I also understand what you meant. not that every single woman is turned on by being assaulted..some women begin to use sex as a tool unfortunately after going through something traumatic while others have not yet learned how to cope with what happened to them so they are against sex, as you put it. it depends on the woman, whether she will go one way or the other - they are definetly two extremes in terms of behavior and neither is good for a woman, imo.
I think a woman could go in two ways - she may become totally inhibited sexually and be afraid of any sexual contact with men because it will bring up bad memories, or she may become sexually aggressive as a way to try to gain power over what happened to them - I think a lot of porno stars fit into this category.
Of course there are other women who are maybe sexually assaulted as adults, or sexually abused as children who work hard at their relationships (physical and emotional), and go on to have normal lives with children and the whole thing! They triumph over their abuse in the best way possible. God bless you all.
that's odd
i became very promiscious..didn't care about myself and how many people i hurt. i wouldn't say that i was aggressive... just easy. i liked(and still do) to be submissive.. so am i an exception or what?!?!? don't get me wrong, i enjoy being in control sometimes... but i always liked to get roughed up a bit before... got me going. talk about feeling totally crazy when you get molested as a child and raped in your early teen years then enjoying rough sex and the whole "rape scenerio"
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