Help me out with this... is there something wrong with me?


Question:
I'm 20 years old. I have one good friend my age (my best friend from school) and a twin brother who I hang out with. Besides them, all of my friends are adults- women at least 10 years older than me. The list consists mostly of ladies who taught me in school and who I've developed a respect and love (friendship type love) for. I enjoy talking to them because I feel they understand me... but one of them made a comment to me about the fact she's concerned that I don't really live a 'young persons' life. I basically never go out, I hate paries, I don't date, etc. I mostly work and go to school (the latter of which isn't a social event for me) and for fun I write or make art at home, very rarely going out with friends or family. I sometimse wish I had more of a social life, but I'm incredibly uncomfortable around my peers. I know my habits arent the 'usual' habits of a 20 year old woman, but is there something *wrong* with me? If so, what could it be? Should I seek help?

Answers:
nothing's wrong with you. it's going to be a comfort to know that you're not the only 20-year old who does what you do. you're mature beyond your age. as long as you're happy and comfortable with yourself, then you're fine. as you get older or meet new people (most likely in school -- doesn't matter if it's not a social event, you meet ppl anyways), you'll see that you'll find people in your age group that's similar to you. again, as long as you're happy and comfortable with yourself, there's no problem. don't let that one comment affect you. believe me, you'd rather do your own thing than be forced to hang out with ppl you don't really get or don't get you at all.

i'm 24. i was like you when i was 20. actually my closest friends are all 10 years older or more. my best friend is a year older than me. my older friends say that i keep them young. in turn, they look out for me and i learn from them
I think you're normal. People can have friends of all ages and skills. My dad talks to taxi drivers all the time and to store owners.
Are you happy with your friends?

You are an adult spending time with other adults. Also, you do have a good friend and a brother who are close to your age, so you have not isolated yourself from people your age.

I feel that if you are friends with people who love and support you, and if you are content with that, then you have been very blessed indeed.

Do YOU feel that there is something wrong with the way you are living?
no, of course not
you are more mature than the usual girls your age, who waste time getting drunk, so thier bf's can do what they want with them
you don't want to be like them and live like a barbie plastic doll do you?
it sounds like you have many things to your advantage, writing can lead you to a great profession in publishing, media, you name it
so don't worry, you have a good future ahead of you
You really need to make some more friends that are more of your own age. Is there something that keeps you in the house all of the time??? At 20 you should be having the time of your life not sitting home doing a whole lot of nothing. Why don't you date?
Are you to shy? You could go out of your house and take some art classes and maybe you will meet more people in your age group. Try to get out more often even if it is to take the dog for a walk if you have one. I understand that you feel more comfortable with the older age group but you really need to find some kids your own age to hang out and have fun with. Good Luck
Why would there be something wrong with you? If you are happy most of the time than you are better off than the majority of people. Not all young people party and run around, so I dont understand what a young persons life is supposed to be.

If you think you have a problem being social then maybe you could talk to someone about it, but do not base it on just one persons opinion.

Maybe there is someone at your school if this is something you feel like you should do.

I really dont think that there is anything wrong with you.
From your writing, it looks like everything is probably fine. You are more of a creative person than a social person and you are more mature than your peers.

In therapy you might want to explore why you don't date and whether you want to be married and have a family. If you want a boyfriend similar to yourself, you are going to have to figure out what you can do to find one. You might want to date someone who is a bit older than you are. Are you happy with the life you have? Or would you prefer to start dating so that you can get the social experience you need to find a husband?
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