How do I deal with therapist leaving? (Forced termination)?

Question:

My psychotherapist, who was great and I have been with for a while, and is the best therapist I have ever had, is leaving the counseling center at my church. He is taking another job at the church. So not only am I DEVASTATED because I trusted his word that he wasn't leaving, and that it took me a long time to find a good Christian therapist like him, and I know it would be super hard to find another one to take someone like me (severe child abuse, cutter, etc.) but I also would STILL have to see him around. See his name on the bulletin, etc. as a church leader. It is almost cruel!

I never want to see another therapist again. NO WAY, do I want to deal with this kind of pain and devastation again. I have become disillusioned with the field of psychotherapy. They take your $, get you to attach to them, and then leave you just like your parents did. It seems like a set up. He was always kind to me which is why I'm so hurt. What to do? I find I am deteriorating. I see him until November

Answers:
Twice I said I would never see another therapist. Once because we moved out of state and I was going to the best therapist in the world. Then I finally gave in and tried someone else and we did great work. Then she decided to send me to an EMDR therapist and was I angry? But my therapist knew what she was doing. My new therapist is the BEST therapist in the world.

I also had severe child abuse. I am getting better.

You need to see someone. I know this is a set back and is very unfair, but you need help (as I did).

There are other great therapist out there. Keep looking until you find someone you like.

Please don't give up. You have the strength to go on. You wrote the letter didn't you? Pray for strength in this time of trial.

I will keep you in my prayers.

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Life is never-ending change. When one makes a promise, over time it may be difficult to fulfill in spite of a determined effort. In order for one to move forward in life, it is often necessary to change jobs, homes, etc. Give him the freedom to go where his life takes him. His changing jobs has nothing to do with your parents. It is certain that he gave you the best possible care if your feelings are so intense. By making him feel guilty, you are belittling his sincere attempts to help you. Ask him for a referral if you still require counseling. Make it an easier transition by alternating your visits with a new therapist. By November you will feel more comfortable with someone else. Your attachment to him and dependence on him is not a healthy therapist-client relationship. Perhaps it is time for both of you to move forward.

How do I deal with therapist leaving? (Forced termination)?

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