How do i deal wit my temper?


Question:
i sometimes get angry and i burst out, but i regret later.what do i do to control my temper...? i tried counting till 20 but that doesnt work..washing my face doesnt help either...

Answers:
I suggest anger management classes or seeing a therapist that specializes in anger management that can help you identify some specific techniques that will help you cope and deal effectively with your anger.
Well, you have to look at things in a more patient and objective way. Try to communicate with people in a more peaceful way, and try your best to accept more diverse ideas.
Take a moment to stop and think about what you are going to say before you say it. Try to be more patient and understanding with others. When you feel like you're getting angry, walk away from the situation until you cool down.
You have to relax a little bit. Maybe you could find a hobby that allows you to "vent". Just remember... its not always what you say but how you say it.
I had that problem too at one time.
By realizing this is an issue you are showing that you want to learn control.
You are responsible for how you think and you feel and what you do.
Your expectations of what people say or do does not match what is happening. You realize that you are letting other people determine how you feel and act.

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Sounds like you are holding things in until they get to the breaking point. It would be good to practice letting your feelings and thoughts up when you first notice them so that it doesnt build up into frustration, resentment and finally anger. Being able to communicate what you think and feel may help. Part of you might be unconsciously attracted to the guilt that you feel sometime after an outburst. Its part of the human condition where we feel unworthy of love on some level. Just be aware of it and maybe you will start to notice some patterns and be able to catch them ahead of time the next time around.
Knowing you have a bad temper is a start. When you feel yourself getting angry remind yourself not to over react. Sometimes you need to step out of the situation for a few minutes and really think about what you are angry about and decide if it is worth getting upset over...Walking away just to be alone for a minute really helps. Ask yourself this question...is this worth getting mad over or is it just my bad temper coming out. After a while of controlling it, it will get easier and easier.
I spent 3 years on a 5 year sentence in a prison in Oklahoma for Assault over my temper.I was forced to attend Anger management for 120 days while incarcerated.Personaly If you feel it is a problem I would realy suggest seeking the help of a psychiatrist or a Anger managment therapist.
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