Would you date someone with bi-polar disorder?
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Hi Suzie:
First I have tyo say this to the firsat fe that answered your post:
You automatically say NO, like it's the blak plague. Well I have Bipolar and If I were available and you all said no because you are prejudging me, then I have to tell you, you would be missing out on one of the best people around. Sure, I can say this because it is true and I only in truth and facts.
That's what happen's to people who prejudge others and I personally get really piss'd off at that. Maybe I should judge you all just from what you wrote. Nah, like I said I do prejusdge, I deal in fact and truths. You guys have alot to learn just about people in general, not just those with Bipolar.
Suzie, everyone is different, everyone's reaction to Bipolar treatment. You can't judge a book by it's cover as it just may be the next #1 on the NY Times list. You would be most likely missing out on someone special.
Sure, I am not saying that being with someone with Bipolar is easy, sometimes it's not. If you were married for 20 years still both madly in love with the other, but he suddenly has a diagnosis of Bipolar. Wow doesnt that explain all the weird stuff every once in a while! But the doc just diagnosed him as having Bipolar Disorder so on the basis of a name of Bipolar, would you divorce the one you love and married to for so many years?
Dating is different as there is not the same bond as marriage, not yet anyway but you may never know that because he told you he has a diagnosis of Bipolar and you dumped him. Now you will never know if he has been stable, compliant with medications and or treatments, does he seek hekp when he feels he needs it? Or did you just assume that forget it, can't be bothered. Dont want to invest my time with damaged goods etc?
Every relationship, marriage or not is a give and take. Why can't you learn about Bipolar and support him just as he let's say...would support your God Forbid, heart condition. Because he found out you have a heart condition and he dumped you, how would you feel?
Be safe and be well
I am just so amazed at how predijuce people are towards others with a diagnosis of Bipolar. I am completely shocked and I feel very sad for all of you. I just can't believe it!!!
Hi Snazzle, Great answer!...Thanks
NO.. did that.. never again! Its absolute hell.. unless you can get them to go to the Dr. and take their medication..
Only if they let me carry a whip around with me.
If I love him,why not?
If it's controlled with strong medication.
hell nah, i too dated a bi polar girl and it was the worst month of my life!
If they were diagnosed, but were treated with meds (which they took like they were supposed to), I would. But, I don't have time or the energy to deal with other people's mood swings! I would much rather be alone than be in that dating situation.
I've done it, and it's very difficult! Would I again? Probably - they're usually fantastic in bed, lol!
you said it yourself- manic depressives can lead perfectly normal lives. if the illness is being treated and all is well, why leave?
Uh ya, they are no different than anyone else. Properly medicated you wouldn't even know. It becomes a personality. You know what their buttons are and you know the signs if they are sad, etc. just like you would anyone else.
If they knew how to take care of themselves constructively when they get sad/mad or are taking medication for it, yes. No one is perfect.
continue dating u'll enjoy great rewards.
I did before. She is convinced she isn't but I saw first hand how quickly she went happy, sad, angry, sad, angry, happy. It's a scary cycle. I would never limit myself on a girl just because she is having issues mentally. If the connection is there then of course. I would suggest she gets some mental help not to be mean but to make sure she stays pretty even all the time. No one deserves to have those types of swings in personalities.
It depends. Some people suffer from it much more than others. Some people will accept medications and the idea of therapy. If they are willing to accept treatment, I'd call it a decent risk, other things being equal.
Yes, I would if the were seeking treatment and dealing with the problem.
I feel that is such an uncontrollable disease. I would not date nor recommend anyone to date someone with that disease. Unfortunately they are walking loose cannons. People that are bipolar scare me!
I wouldn't. Bear in mind that manic depressives need medical help and alot don't seek it. Is he/she on medication? Seeing a doctor? That should help you decide.
bi- polar is something that can be really hard or really easy to deal with, my mom has bi-polar and divorced my dad and hasn't talked to me or any of her family in 2 years and refuses to take medication. as long as this person is willing to be treated for bi-polar and take the medication regurarly then everything should be ok. i wouldn't let any of this get in the way of your relations though, if you like her then you shouldn't let bi-polar stand in the way between you and her, but i can't pretend that it will still be hard to go through all the therapy sessions i would make sure that i really like this person before i commited to her
I wouldn't date someone who's bi-polar. Its not their fault that they have this disorder, but you shouldnt put yourself through it either. You never know what they'll do if they have an episode, or if they'll flip out about something small. I would say if you are dating someone who's bi-polar, just get out of it. You dont want to hurt them, but you just have to realize that your well being matters more to you! And its true manic depressives can be happy a lot of the time, but they can also be angry and they can do things that can hurt other people. So just think about your safety! good lucK!
Dating someone, yes. Commiting to a more serious relationship - probably not. Sorry. Have to be honest.
I had a really good friend who was bi-polar. She seemed really great when we didn't hang out as much, but once we became better friends she would yell at me, talk about me, get mad at me for no reason, then act like nothing happened. I'd spend some days avoiding her, or just crying because of the things she'd say, then i'd try to make her happy with me again. it's hard to deal with people who are bi-polar. it makes you very unhappy. i'd advise not to start dating someone like that, but try to stay pretty good friends. if you are already dating someone and then found out they were bi-polar, i'd say if they seem okay then stay together. just finding out they have the disease doesn't make them any different of a person.
Sorry, the answer is no.
my mate married one...she the psycho from hell.
one minute shes fine..next she flips and smashes everything in sight... apparently its not good enough...
even if you have to force feed her her meds... i wouldnt go anywhwere near her, and ive known her for 25 years... i did the pics at their wedding!
stoned out of her tree shes fine... otherwise shes dangerous, to herself and anyone who is near to her...
believe me,jacking off is safer... and you dont have to look your best or get dressed up...
HELL NO! DO YOU WANT TO GET SHOT??
Probably not. Not being particularly stable mentally, to be with someone worse than me, would set me back years.
I would if they were taking meds to regulate the brain chemicals, and if they were in talk therapy for the tough times.
Anyone suffering from Bipolar Disorder will have challenges in their life. With the right medications they can manage this condition. It's likely there will still be problems.
That said, if you are shallow and immature, it would be best to break it off. If you can't handle the challenges of your own life you will not be able to cope with theirs.
Every relationship has challenges. If you stay with this person learn everything you can about the condition so you can support them and understand, and not take things personal.
I'm bipolar, and I don't date,
Problem solved!
If they are well aware that they have this condition and are actively seeking to control and maintain it through medication and a healthy lifestyle and coping techiniques I would have no qualms dating them. No one is perfect, but we must all try to be the best people we can!
uh. . if I loved him. . .DUH! Just because he is bipolar doesn't mean that he is bad! I know that they can be annoying but my worst pet peeve is people that call themselves good making fun of retards! I HATE THAT and if you are lucky I won't report you!
In a nutshell..no. Sorry to sound rather harsh but I'm old enough to realise that life throws too many hurdles at you to going looking for more. I have enough hurdles of my own...apart from that I'm not single.
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