Why do i have a constant fear of getting older?
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Well, I'm a 48 year old female and at twenty I couln't have fathomed being this age. But it's awesome, I swear! I have grown kids, grandkids, a great husband, own a house, own my own small business. The kids being on there own gave me and hubby our space. He can walk around naked if he want, and he does. I love animals, so now I have , besides dogs,cats, fish, and birds.iguanas , hairless rats, and a tarantula! I'm not trying to be a teen again, but I do have my nosed pierced (10 years ago), my belly button pierced (6 mos. ago)... I take good care of myself, so I don't have to wear those old fogie mu mus! Life is life! We make mistakes, learn from em, get on with our next venture. And try to help someone else a long the way! My parent always acted old. That was my role models to look forward to. Ugh! But then I met this lovely 93 year old woman who ghad enough zest and youth for mom and pop. At 92, she learned how to use a computer! Actually, we never had one till a couple months ago! Your'e at a crossroad in your life. And they'll be tons more, believe me! You are barely an adult , so think about what gives you passion. What makes you happy. I used to think life was downhill at 30. Boy, was I wrong!
Consider the alternative to getting older.
well pretty much no one wants to get older, because that means you're getting closer to dying. ive thought about it every once and a while, but i just try to enjoy life and worry about being old... later.
I'm thinking this is what everyone's going through right now. I'm thinking about that too. Try not to think about you childhood as much as you can. It helps me forget about aging.
You have nothing to worry about. I wish I was 20 again. I am going to be 35 in a few months. Now that is scary. When you are my age all I think about is the things I wished I did different when I was that age. All I can say is that use your decisions wisely and stay in college as well as dont second guess your future. Because you still have many things that you can experience at a young age. Its certainly much more than I can say. I have regrets and accomplishments that havent been what I wanted. So anyways youll be alright. And when it comes it comes.
You might have a negative view of aging. You should change your principle on getting old. There are so much advantages of being old than being young.. Im 26 and im looking forward myself at 40, coz i wonder what will be my life when im 40. Right now, just make the most of your age. Don't worry for the future. Leave it all up to someone up there.
well im 19 and i think of getting older just like you. my brother is already 30 years old and im like damn how the hell is he that old? i always fear growing up and what is going to happen in the future. i think i feel this way about getting older because life really does fly by. i can remember being so young and thinking turning 21 was light years away and now in less than 2 years i will be 21 and im like what the f*** because i still feel like the person i always have been and i dont want my life to fly by i want to enjoy it. like if these first 20 years flew by this fast then i fear the next 20 will fly by even faster and will be a lot less fun..oh well the only advice i can give you is enjoy life and enjoy being young and have fun because before you know it we all will be old, unfortunately.
I have that constant fear too. It creeps up on me when I lease expect it; things like partying, chilling with friends, driving...ect. I always work myself up over it and I suffer from anxiety attacks because of it too. Normally what I do to help ease the fear is just relax, and think of the positive things of youth. It's inevitable.
‘The idle mind is the devil’s playground’ and nothing good results if a young man fritters away his time without an end result…”
To be honest, I never worried about getting old because I guess I didn't think it would happen to me!
Now, I am shortly going to turn 59 and I wonder where the last 30 years have gone. It makes me sad that I didn't appreciate the good things in my life that I just took for granted. You get so lost in the day-to-day life -- get up, go to work/school, get home, eat, do whatever, and go to bed. Wake up and start all over again.
Several years ago someone suggested I read "The Precious Present." I did and since that time I have tried to live my life differently. I have also used it as a topic in the AA meetings that I chair. I have recommended it to many people and I do so now to you. You can read it in about half an hour and you can get it at Amazon -- look in the used book section. That is where I just bought my copy -- about $4, I think (or your library).
Don't worry about getting old -- it's better than the alternative!
Enjoy your life.
I occasionally think about it, but lately have thought about it more since my 35th birthday is right around the corner the 25th of August to be exact). For me it is weird. It is like this age sort of just crept up on me out of nowhere. I guess for me I start to compare what I have accomplished at my age and what should be expected of me by my age by society and sometimes see gaps and it bothers me. It does sound stupid, but I think we all go through that at some point.
It is good to look back at your life but try to do it in a positive light. Think about what you have accomplished in life up to this point, but don't get hung up in "I could have done this or I should have done that."(woulda coulda shoulda syndrome is what I like to call that...). To refocus the situation, think about the present and where you may like to go from here. After all the past is something you cannot change. It is done and over with now. However, if you had made mistakes in the past, you can learn from them and avoid making the same ones in the future.
Hope this is helpful.
"To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am."
— Bernard M. Baruch
On one hand, the population is "graying," meaning there are more older people every day. Being surrounded by people who seem older, possibly wiser and more experienced, may produce a kind of envy or perhaps hope that the future will bring you knowledge and success, and in our age of instant gratification, you want it now.
But you can't get there by dwelling on it.
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." - John Lennon
But also there is a phenomenon of generations of people (mostly in the United States) who have a sense of a foreshortened future. That is, they are unable to look forward to a long life, make plans, be patient and persevere. It seems to be a massive case of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which was first noticed in the Cold War. If The Bomb is hanging over your head, how do you plan for retirement? If there is always a war some where, and it could be at your doorstep in a second, then how many years do you think you will live?
So you are confronted by the aged and the potential of your life, but you are under constant threat of annihilation. Maybe this is how you repond to all that.
Accept that we all will grow old some day, and then stop focussing on it but on how we can look and feel younger than our age, and how to live a more meaningful life. The numbers don't count .
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