Can you help me?i can't go to a psycologist or psycotherapist or psychiotrist,so plz dont suggest it.?
Question:
my problems began when i was born i mean it has always been the same for the last 19 years.
i really don't know what to do please help me,now i will explaine u what my problems are.
my problems are my parrents,they dont understand me,they want me to be perfect (from their point
of view) & i am not,so they want to make me perfect,but that's not possible so the result came out
for me to be a suicidal instead of perfect.
they are so religious they wont permit me to have a boy friend mor go to any parties,or make up
when i want to go out,ok im ok with all of that but u know sci8nce i dont have any of the funs
above my only fun is watching movies & listening to music,you know i can't live withought them &
they blame me for that ,they tell me you are not normal,i accept that but they are the only things
in this world that make me happy.
i don't drink alcohol,i do'nt smoke
Answers:
I suggest you read the book called "Real Magic" by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. It teaches you the solution to all of your problems - how to be happy, successful, healthy and prosperous in daily life in spite of difficulties. I also suggest you pack a bag, move into a womens shelter with your book and avoid your parents like the plague. Explain to them that you are suffering from physical and verbal abuse and you are depressed as a result. They will guide you with treatment and kindness. Good Luck!
I pray that the whole family will go for counceling....You sound like a great person..hang in there....
First of all, it's hard for me to believe this is a real question. If your parents are very religious, they wouldn't be cursing at you all the time. If you're 19, you are legally an adult. Find a job, rent a room or share an apartment, but GET AWAY FROM THEM. That is what a psychologist would tell you. You have to fix the physical parts of your life before you can repair the mental part.
You are an adult. GET THE HELL OUT!! Go to college and start your own life. It seems scary and all going out into the world with no money and nowhere to go, but get yourself an education. I moved out when I was 17 years old...the day I graduated high school. Although my parents are very loving and supportive. I also had a boyfriend that I moved in with (we are still together by the way). Go talk to a college financial aid officer and get yourself a student loan. You may end up with $100,000 in college loan debt, but you are free from you parents and it will be the best transforming 4 years of your life. And you'll have a great job as an end result. Then you can have your own place, your own career & your own life. And never turn back...
Here is the first thing. You are 19, a legal adult, a big girl...you are completely allowed to do what you feel is right. Leave home whenever you can to get away from parents, and chill with your closest friends. Go to the movies, the mall whatever you guys like doing. Rollerskating, walking around th park. You sound like an awesome person.hang in there...you'll be okay! I promise.
hi hon...
it looks like you have quite a lot of worry and frustration in your life right now.
why CAN'T you go to a therapist? there are clinics everywhere, and many of them have financial aid available. you really need to do the legwork and call around to find out what is out there..talk to the business office personnel.. if your parents have insurance, use it!
you are an adult, and can go anywhere you like -- and your health is very important.
perhaps you could get a job and save money to move out? maybe find a room mate or two?
if your parents are super-religious that might be part of the problem... they may be so involved with religion that everything looks bad to them. i have had experience with these types, and believe me, they can be the most judgmental people on the planet... (and it doesn't matter that the Church teaches that we should not judge, these bible thumpers do it religiously, as if THEIR way is the only way!)
do you have another adult who you look up to and who you might be able to talk with? perhaps if you find someone you trust and respect, they will listen and perhaps offer some good advice?
i hope you will do the legwork to find help for yourself...
take care.
I really hope this is not a joke because I had somone very close to me committ suicide, and I found her dead body.
That said... YOU NEED HELP!! You are not going to find the help you need here on YouQA.com . You have access to a computer so call or e-mail:
http://suicidehotlines.com/
They will have the help you need!!! CALL NOW!! NOT TOMORROW!!!
Call hotline NOW.you need direction in all this. DO not put it off another day.there is help out there and county services are affrodable!
Never ever try to commit suicide in any manner. You have to learn to forgive your family if you think that they have treated you badly. I will pray for you, I will pray to my God, Jesus Christ to help you. Are you a Christian? Do you go to church?
The key word here is "Independence." You are 19 years old. You are legally an adult,I am assuming,depending on what state you live in.If you don't like living with your parents,and they make your life miserable,move out.Find a job.Get your own place. Learn how to be your own person.See what you are capable of,without having to listen to your parents yelling at you all the time that you are worthless.If you let anyone walk all over you,then you are never going to assert yourself. Just because your parents are your biological parents,that doesn't mean they are "good" parents. There are zillions of parents who suck at it.get out on your own!!
And one more thing,which may sound mean,but I do not mean it that way: Learn how to spell,and write,and speak. Until you do,you will be relegated to low-paying jobs with no future. Make something of yourself.If your parents are never proud of you,so be it. YOU have to be proud of YOURSELF. Get on it.And best wishes for you.
oh my! this is almost an exact replica of me life only its mental abuse in my family.ok if you like movies and such get a wii it has normal games you parents might let you get like mario.alost if you like intrtnet try www.dragonfable.com.
go outside and cloud watch liston to the wind
or a diffrent approch clean your room spotless if they say some thing to you while eating hold up 1 finger to say 1 min and then talk after your done chewing try to be who they want then go some where to hang with friends or be alone and cuss them out privatly
fi you think its possible try family councling or a social worker
if not good luck P.S. no suiside it would be ashame to lose a cool person like you! =)
This sounds like a horrible situation for you, but you are still very young. Things WILL get better eventually so please stop thinking about suicide.
Is there any adult from church or school or anywhere that you can talk to?
In your country can a group of single women live together? Do you have any friends that you could move in with?
Do you have any relatives that might be able to help you?
I know things seem hopeless right now, but please don't hurt yourself. One way or another things will eventually get better.
Pain seeks only to create more pain because it eats pain and thrives on it.
You live with pain pretending to be parents.
Luckily, there is a defense. I will talk with you on messenger.
If you are 19 .You need to get out and be on your own. if your mother abuse you (bite) and your father and mother insult you it is abuse too. you need to talk to social worker or even show the bites marks to the police..You need to be free of them you sound like a really good person...you don't have a problem they have many.Keep your room clean don't talk to them and don't face them if any confilct, just ignore them until you can go away.good you don't drink or smoke so don't even start, I never did..Study read books, learn about everything and you will be a winner not a loser like them, sorry to tell you this about your parents but I am angry to see how they treat you. Think of you as the number one, you control your own life nobody else does. Take good decision for the best of your life. You will do just fine, I believe in you. Get help, look into the yellow pages...Good luck I wish you the best and if I could be there to help you I will do..You are great never forget this and you are strong.
i've read your question and i can tell you they r like my parents; and i also tried killing myself, of course, they didn't let me; but i passed this situation by learning math, no joke; now i don't live with them since 3 years and i study in the faculty; now they have a better image about me , but my dad tried to hit me once and since then i come home once a year
they r too very religious, and i am not, and now i'm not afraid to say it to anyone and i'm lucky cause my new bf is also like that ( my ex-s were very religious)
education can get you out of this situation although it's hard to study when you're depressed; but when you're not make a list of 100 things that you do when you're depressed and memorize it; it worked to me
take care of yourself; in the end, u'll make ur own life
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