Is it wrong to be different?
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Of course it's not wrong to be different. And it sounds like you've been through a whole lot of stress and sadness. It's natural to feel confused and lost when your life is changing so much. If you can, try to relax about it, and give yourself time to naturally develop who you are. You don't need to "find yourself" just treat yourself kindly, give yourself peaceful space and time, and try out things you like- your self will find you!
It's always good to have people to talk to- your friends, maybe? Some places have hotlines for kids that you could call. They might be able to talk to you about this, and maybe let you know about free or low cost support groups for kids who have lost family members.
If you think you HAVE to be different, I think that's worth looking into. One thing you can try: Find a quiet place, get peaceful and focused, and have writing paper, your computer, or your journal handy. Ask yourself the question "What if I'm just like everybody else?" Watch what emotions and thoughts come up, and just start writing about them. It might give you understanding about what's behind feeling like you have to be different, and then you can deal with those feelings more directly.
I used to feel like I had to be different -I had to be creative, intelligent and special in order to be worth anything. Then I realized I didn't have to try to be different- all I had to do was be! Because everybody's unique, even if it doesn't look like it on the surface... And everybody's valuable.
it's better to be different then just be one more clone of everyone else.
lucky high school is almost over for me. I hope college is way better for people who don't fit in.
Be who you want to be. It doesn't matter what you dress like, listen to, or enjoy watching. YOu are your own person. Make your own choices, and don't let anyone tell you who you should be. Anyone who trys to change you are, are just sheeples trying to conform you to their flock.
My philosophy is: Be the goat in the field of sheep.
Yes, all teens go through some of these issues. You sound like a very intelligent person and just want to be your own individual. Try one day to go up and be friendly to someone else who appears "left out" . You may just find your best friend. Is there another female family member(aunt, older cousin) you would trust to talk to about your feelings? You say the school has no counselor. What about a favorite teacher? Try writing in a journal. Sometimes writing down your feelings helps you to self analyze them and gets them straightened out. Hope some of these suggestions work.
different is refreshing. Keep searching for "your" style and move to NYC or cali when you can. Keep trying everything that seems interesting to you and before you know it your identity will appear through all the things you love to do and the people you love. When you try to be different thats basically you trying to set yourself apart so you can see yourself more clearly. You will be able to define yourself sooner than you think. Hang in there. Also may I suggest San Diego its awsome there!
Right now, I would find someone that you can talk with: a good friend (a grown-up) or relative. Preferably, speak with a psychiatrist. Someone who has alot of training to help you. Tell your mother what has been going on with you. At least that way she will know what is happening with you. I know you are going through trying times right now. But, if you open up about these problems, life won't seem so bad.
Don't be ashamed that you prefer being different from everyone else. In my opinion that is a strength. Please don't change that part of yourself. School days often can be the worst part of growing up. Get interested and sign up for school activities that you would be interested in. Do your own thing.
Hunny. Normal can be over rated.
You must understand you can act like somthing else but you will fail on the inside of you. Dont harm yourself by being someone your not. Be your self hang out with real friends.
Go out on the town wearing what you want when you want as long as your dressed then you shouldnt worry. act silly if you want act mean just dont get arrested.
Understand hun Your not a freak your not weird Your normal to another crowd
The time you're going through right now is a transition period. You're figuring out who you are, what you like, etc.
Everybody's different, remember that. *Everybody.* And if you want to make yourself even more different from the others, I say good for you.
The age you're at is the time for experimentation- maybe you could join a sports team or martial arts to boost your confidence, have a little fun with life! Find something you really enjoy- it doesn't matter if everyone else around you likes it or not!
Give it time. You may feel lost now, but you're just beginning to find yourself.
...And it's okay not to wear makeup. There's no law that says you have to, right?
it is great to be different the world would be dull if we were all the same
um... I know that I have always felt like I don't socialize enough to get to know others and be more participant, and I don't like to be known just as the quiet girl, and I really want to find the ME ya know, and i know how ya feel, and I like to be cool, and I've dreamed of standing out and being in california, so you sound familiar, but I think it's awesome to stand out, be different, and I don't know if this helps but I just want ya to know that I know what your feeling
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