What to do when you are very lonely?
Question:
ok... I just got out of a painful 'relationship'. Had to let it go because well I refused to be a doormat. But before he came into my life I was fine and just enjoying my everyday life. However, after it ended I suddenly felt lonely. He basically awakened the feelings of being someone and caring about them. And now I dont know what to do. I'm really lonely. I hang out with friends and try to keep busy but apparently it's not working... I hate this feeling
Answers:
You should be proud of yourself for recognizing that your needs were not being met in this relationship and you opted out. Of course you're going to feel lonely and hurt because you were used to having someone and you miss him. I think you're doing the best thing right now by haning out with friends and keeping busy. It's going to take time for these feelings to heal. Don't dwell on the past.. look towards the future. Just keep taking care of yourself and you'll be fine.
You did well by getting out of a bad relationship. Took me awhile to get out of mine too. But, I basically played videogames, hung out with friends, connected with people on myspace and made a few more new friends, and eventually I met the love of my life. Maybe go back to school or work at getting a promotion at work.
Then the cliche, it takes time to get over comes in. It really does. What helped too is going out to places with friends, like disneyland or a water park. What entertained me is going out to clubs with my friends and turning down all the guys that hit on me :)
keeping busy is a good way to do it but you also have to make sure that you're positive about what you're doing. if you are hangng out with your friends then enjoy their company, don't try to find that guy in another person or situation. look for all the new opportunities that would make you interested like a hobby or a help you could give to your friends which you are not able to do before. then you will enjoy your new life.
Live happy!
well im sorry to say that only time will cure you. I have had my heart broken so many times sometimes i wonder if its still there at all. while your waiting for time to pass find a hobby something creative. its not at all easy. i do feel for you.
jethro
You do not need someone to validate that you are a real person.
Think of all the reasons to like yourself.
You can be your own best friend.
Try going where you will make new friends.
Join a club that has similar interests to you.
Do some charity work. Offer to help with a youth club.
Read my articles on Happiness and Finding the Real You
at http://themeaningisyou.com
you should be happy that u dindt let him treat u like a doormat. many girls let the guys treat them that way and are not strong enough to do anything about it. its good you found respect to yourself. he doesnt deserve you if he was that way to you. just focus on ur friends and time will heal everything. u will find someone better who will be just as nice to u as u can be to them. at least now you are not wasting ur time on someone who doesnt appreciate you. keep ur head up and show him and other guys what great of a person u are.
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