Abuse. I have questions.?
Question:
But when I confront my mom about it, she just thinks it normal sibilings fighting.
What would you consider this?
Any tips to stop the fighting?
As hard as I try to please him,
nothing seems to work. :[
Help...?
Answers:
It seems that you have some other issues that you guys are trying to resolve the way most teenagers do, fight.
But I think the violence needs to stop before either one of you gets seriously hurt.
Talk to your brother & try & explain to him what you feel. I am sure he will understand.
He maybe still thinking of you as a little girl & may not understand that as a young lady you need to be treated with respect.
press charges on him that's violence your moms in denial
ask yourself several reasons why your so angry w/him.
find out the root of this anger between you both, get therapy
you don't need to fight. it's unhealthy esp. if that's mostly what your doing!
just stop it
and have a talk w/him in efforts to resolve matters, it should help eventually
Honey, he needs the help not you. Your mom needs to really open her eyes and see what's really going on because if she doesn't you and your brother will never get along. I say it from experience. It's sad but there are 6 kids in our family and we all don't get along. We are all older and our realationship with one another is strained. It really bothers my mom but she should have put her foot down instead of ignoring and favoring some of us. I think my parents were just too tired to put their foot down from working all day, but I'll be damned if my kids will act like that with one another.
first off thats not normal sibling fighting. sounds like your brother has an anger problem. not only is that physical abuse on a minor it's domestic violence on a woman none the less.
i know it could cause more problems but hun the next time he lays a hand on you i suggest you call the police. it's not right at anytime for him to choke you or hit you in any way.
you also could suggest counseling to him.
Call the cops, that's not acceptable behaviour in a 19 year old man. Nip this in the bud and get his name on file at the local PD.
Sounds like your brother has displaced anger and your mom is in denial about it. He needs some help before he really hurts you or someone else. How does he treat his girlfriends?
To stop the fighting? Well, the scriptures say, "A soft answer turns away wrath." Maybe he's reacting to your "anger." Just don't react back to him, I guess.
If I were you, I'd go learn some basic self-defense and let him know he can't treat you that way all his life. No, a woman probably can't overpower or out-punch a man, but there are some simple things you can do to not get hurt as much, and to maybe stabilize the situation to where you are not always on the losing end. Learn some good throws and joint locks. Stop trying to please him, because it obviously isn't working.
You are in a bad situation, sweetie. Good luck.
my dear teenage girl, first your mom should not be ignoring your behavior, second, you my need to see Dr. in order to learn how to control your emotions, finally, next time when you will be just about to lose your control--stop, and think-- how would you feel, if someone was doing it with you?
THIS IS CALLED DOMESTIC ABUSE! IT IS ALSO CHILD ABUSE!
If your mom doesn't see this, she's probably a victim of abuse herself. That doesn't excuse it, and you definitely need to try and impress upon her that it's not right. Sounds like she won't do anything, though. If she refused to do anything, then tell her you have no choice but to find someone to help you stop the abuse.
Since you are underaged, you should start first by calling the local Department of Family Services (or Children Services) - I'm sure they'd love to know. They are they to protect you from just this kind of thing.
You could also call a women's shelter - they will have information on services and help available to you in your area. Also, I would file a police report, and perhaps get a restraining order against your brother. Does he live at your house? That would make it tricky, but reporting it to the police may be the only way to get to somewhere safe, and make it difficult for him to abuse you.
it seems like your mother is in denial, there is no point in asking her for help. i suggest you do something before it gets out of hand or it may lead to something worse if he's in a relationship with someone...you can try counseling or sit him down and actually ask him why is he doing this to you...i mean don't interrogate him, ask him nicely...maybe you might be able to get through to his soft side.
AVOID HIM! Get your self a can of mace to carry around with you. Next time he feels the need to mess with you without having been provoked warn him first, then if he dos not stop spray it in his face. This may make him learn his lesson, and it may help to open up your moms eyes! You ahve the right to protect youself. Just because you arent 18 and he is your brother dosent make this behaviour acceptable. It makes it worse because he is supposed to protect you not harm you!
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