How to have a conversation?
Question:
I join a chat room and I feel so stupid, I cannot think of anything to say. I'm so lonely I've never had any friends I don't do anything interesting, what could I do to improve?
I am a university student, I used to work, and I took foreign language classes. still. I wasn't able to talk about any intelligent thing beyond the immediate purposes of the business at hand.
I never had a friend. or anything...
Answers:
Poor you are you really shy? It is possible to overcome this beleive it or not, I was unbeleivably shy at one point, found it hard to answer to the register even. But Im not as bad any more, this is because i joined a horse-riding club and found out I was good at it, so talked to people who were also interested and made a whole set of new friends. You could do something similar. What are you into? Good Luck, It's all about confidence. Why not add people on here for starters?
:-D
hello, hello,... are you there ... hello..
try what I've done. I answer silly q's in polls and surveys and now I have contacts. I've even had email conversations. This is good for me as I'm scared of the world.
on a conversation you need to have your equal. Difficult job to find out who that could be. So go to jokes You have known instantly how many are your" juniors" at reasoning powers!
go out more and open ur mouth say hello and what ur interests are!!
You are unique in your own way my dear.Ask me how i got to know that,i did through your approach in asking your question.You make it so simple in understanding what you are trying to say or ask us.
The only thing left is to believe in your self and that can be done if you try the following:
a.Stand in the mirror and try to make a loud presentation of anything you deem interesting, and be serious about it.
b.Join a club or a group of intelligencias that will motivate you to feel good about yourself.
c.Whenever you are with your friends try and initiate a topic of discussion that you think is very interesting to you and that which you can contribute better.
Afterwards you will agree with me that you are not shy and stupid after all !
Find a group that is interested in the same things you are. Then ask people questions about themselves or what they think about something. People love to talk about themselves or give opinions.
I don't usually advise people to get a pet but maybe a dog would be a good companion. I always used to meet people when walking my dog. An eay way to start a conversation. But don't even consider getting a pet unless you plan to love it and take care of it for its lifetime.
You've given us a clue to a way forward where you say that you can only talk about the business at hand. If that is what you are best at, do more of that: join a club centred on whatever your interests are (model railways, sailing, horse riding, rock climbing, woodwork, dancing, theatre, flying, chess, jazz, politics, films or whatever it is that you like doing) so that you can make friends gradually while you talk about your hobby. Then you wont have to worry about making social chit chat. Your local library will have a list of local clubs. You can also track some down via the internet. Good luck.
you're just a bit shy matey it will get less as your confidence builds up - you certainly had no problem making yourself understood here and the most of the others who answered gave you really good advice - get off to your local library and get into some new stuff- over the years i've found that everytime i learned something new my confidence grew
good luck
why don't just leave the country, why don't you finish your studies and then come move to Namibia, here in keetmanshoop everyone is addicted to talking there is never a moment of silence, as i type im on the phone talking...
More Questions & Answers...