Need Help...Involving my fear of getting too close to people?
Question:
is there anyway that i can get over this fear? am i forever going to push people away until i expose these issues?
thanks for the help.
Answers:
I have a smilier issue.. whenever i get close to someone i feel as if its my duty now to end that relationship before they also see ' the real me' I'm not a bad person or anything and neither are you.. its just that we have a problem letting people get to close to us because we are frightened of the consequences that may come later due to putting our happiness first i:e relationships. However i know its for the best to just come out in the open with you 'secrets' or else you will have everything bottled up inside of you and it will only become worse and you will also find it harder to tell loved ones or just people... you don't need to trust people if you are not comfortable with that in-case they let you down but your loved ones i think they have the right to see the real you...
if worse comes to worse which i doubt and they then push you away regarding your problems then SO BE IT you are not a burden, so forget what people think everyone has their own issues and the real you may not be as bad as you think.
i hope that helps just a little bit x
Yes, you will keep pushing people away until you resolve the issues at least. I don't know if you need to tell them per se (I don't know what they are or how damaging they could be) but you at least need to get over them yourself. You should tell somebody those secrets, though. Secrets get heavier the longer you keep them. I think as humans we need others. We need to connect, to listen, to be listened to. "No man is an island" so to speak. You will be unhappy as long as you are alone. Sharing might be scary, but it's necessary to move on. Good luck.
SAY TOO YOURSELF
IF
I CAN
FIND LOVE IT IS THE BEST THING-THAT ONE CAN HAVE BUT IF I DON'T I STILL LOVE-MYSELF FOR THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN LOVE ME IS MYSELF ME AND-YOU HAVE A LOT INCOMING YOU ARE #NUMBER #ONE
i had the same problom tell them if you trus them and if you dont get to know people and let them see the real you
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