Striving for perfection?
Question:
www.xkhx.blogspot.com
and read striving for perfection?
Is it wrong for me to feel that way? or normal? im so confused.
i want to be perfect so badly, im striving to be skinny as a stick...
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It's so painful to read your poem. The terrible confusion of beauty with body image is a tragedy of today. The people I have found most beautiful, the ones who take my breath away and make me want to be with them, have never been conventionally attractive and certainly not skinny. They were fully themselves and very alive to life.
But you are under a compulsion to be skinny and nothing much I say is going to make much difference. I suspect you would find it unbelievable if someone were to say that what they loved about you was your essence and not your body. What is perfect about you is YOU. If you could allow yourself to be fully who you really are (not some weird ideal of body shape), then that is what would be 'perfect' - perfectly, fully, YOU.
This desire to be skinny, and all the efforts to get there, to control your appetite, your exercise, your elimination, provide a focus for you so you don't have to be so aware of what it REALLY is that is problematic in your life. I so, so hope that you can find some psychotherapy to help you before you do yourself serious damage.
You probably already know - and perhaps don't care enough about yourself to care - but serious deprivation of food in your teens and early twenties results in bad health problems later in life, not least being osteoporosis. I would so like it not to happen to you.
As your poem acknowledges, even if you achieve some body shape that looks like one of the painfully thin models who seem to be fashionable, it still won't be enough. Continuing with this search towards a 'perfection' that virtually nobody in the world actually sees as perfect (men like women with curves, women know all about the struggle with weight but are very uncomfortable with women in whom it is an obsession) has only one outcome if left unchecked. That is death. And not any old death but a horrible one. Please, please, get help. Let someone love you and help you. I wish I could.
You should not want to be skinny as a stick you should want healthy curves that men would love
My take on perfection is that it is not about perfection but control.
If you strive for perfection that is impossible to reach you can tell everyone that what they are doing is not good enough, no matter how well they did.
I read your poem.
It made me feel sad.
Life is not about superficial beauty.
It is about loving, giving and living.
So think about life as a gift to you.
Enjoy every breath.
No thing that you buy will ever surpass that.
It can not love you.
It will never enjoy what you give it.
Take joy in your family and friends.
And think happiness.
If you want to read about happiness
go to my blog: http://themeaningisyou.com
And what would that give you, to be perfect? Never mind that perfect doesn't mean anything.
It's an opinion if someone is perfect, until we get to know them. Or, everything and everyone is already perfect. which is closer to the truth.
I read your poem, and I realized how true its message is. Honestly, (and I really mean this) you're a really talented writer. Is it wrong for you to feel this way? I'm not so sure. I do know that you are DEFINITELY not alone. One of my best friends is facing the same issue. Although, she did let her concerns about her imperfections get to her to the point where it was dangerous for her health... she started smoking because she had heard rumors about it making people thinner. She also tried taking large amounts of diet pills, more than you're supposed to take. That, and she skipped lunch and breakfast all the time. I'm not saying that you'll do any of these things, I'm just saying that trying to be perfect (especially when it comes to your weight) can be very dangerous if you're not careful. To tell you the truth, I am actually "underweight". My BMI (body mass index) is less than 18.6. And you know what? I am JUST as insecure and concerned about my body as anyone else is, if not even more than some people. That's because I don't want to be so thin...often I'll look around me and see glares from other girls, envious ones. They hate my guts (or I guess lack of), and it really brings me down sometimes. The truth is, I have no choice in the matter. I have actually TRIED to get, well chunkier, curvier, whatever you want to say... but I can't. I guess the only way to know for sure if it's right or wrong to strive for perfection is to listen to your conscience. It won't steer you wrong. :)
these past couple of days have been extremely rough and eye opening for me,
i lost a loved one and realized that the world is a cruel cold place, and even if you are in pain others may not be there for u and only be focuseed on their on selffish petty problems
i used to be like you, striving to be stick thin and perfect then after having a tradgedy i realized that it truely is the inside the heart of gold what you are really made of when you take away the fancy clothes and friends and makeup.
it really is the good inside you that can make you feel like a million bucks, not ur fake tans and 00 zero jeans.
I read your poem. It was very well worded. I used to feel exactly like you do. And then I developed an eating disorder. I know it's hard to believe, but if you are feeling this way, it is not because of the media. I think you need to step back and look at what's really stressing you out. It might take a therapist's help, but it is totally worth it if you can prevent yourself from taking a huge plunge into nothingness. I hope that everything will be okay for you.
I want to be skinny as a stick to we should chat lol
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