Husband has ocd..i have a question?
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i mean the boy confessed this to me. WTF
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I don't think thinking about a woman while having sexual intercourse has anything to with Obsessive Compulsory Disorder.
I have OCD, and last I checked that didn't qualify as an obsessive tendency. Turning all your cd's to face the same way yes, opening the door a certain number of times yes, fixing your clothes in your closet by color and style, yes. I'm sorry honey, but to me it sounds like an excuse. Of course then I would ask, why did he even tell you unless somehow he has twisted it inside himself to think it's legitamately part of OCD? Tell him he needs to talk to his doctor about it, but that you want to be part of that session as well.
Okay. Firstly, He is outright lying to you.
And the best way to tell him to take his lies and shove them... would be to get some amazingly blatant info on OCD and set them in front of him while he is eating his breakfast... and then followed by a stern, "Get the hell out."
Nothing good can come from what he has said or done.
He may have other, more serious problems that you and him cannot see.
If you are not in a lifelong commitment to this man, then it is time to call it quits before he drags you into his other OBSESSIONS.
OBSESSIONS are different from the disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
People who have OCD usually tend to not know it, or they do, and they hide it very well.
Most patients do not even realize that what they are doing is out of the ordinary. While others, are so embarassed by it, they hide it.
And by IT, I mean.. "ticks". Ticks are the small or large actiona they do to comfort themselves because they fear bad things will happen to them or their closest loved ones if they dont.
For instance, my boyfriend checks his alarm clocks (all three of them), 7 times before he goes to sleep. I have tried to trick him, and only let him have one alarm clock, and then interrupt him during his counting. He gets VERY VERY upset, and will stop at nothing to make sure he has all of his clocks, and he will start his counting over.
He is embarassed by this... but this is OCD.
OCD is seen more often than not in children.
For instance, when I was a child.. I hated seams. Seams in jeans, seams in socks.. and seams in my shoes. So... my mom let me wear sweat pants, and knee-high socks, and open toed shoes or rain boots for a long time.
It of course, wears off to some. And now... I wear whatever I want, without any problems or thoughts about it.
Certainly, through all this... you have gathered that your boyfriend does not have OCD when it comes to him thinking about other women when he with you.
He has sexual problems. Period.
And that, my friend, is a black hole of problems in which it would take me days to inform you of.
So you have been warned.
You can have obsessive thought with ocd. How old is your husband?
If he is over 40, it's highly unlikely it's ocd.
Ocd can cause unwanted repetitive thoughts and urges. Maybe his mind is latching onto this particular thought when you are in bed together. He knows it's wrong but it won't leave him alone and especially at the times he doesn't want or need to think about it.
I don't really know for sure--any other ocd symptoms from him?
this isn't something ocd related, he's pulling a fast one on you.
Did he confess to you only after getting caught (like by calling you a different name?) or did he freely confess this? If he freely confessed it, then it may actually be a problem. (Since he didn't have to tell you.) I can't tell you weather or not this is and OCD trait. It could also be that he THINKS it is an OCD trait, therefore allowing it to happen. Has he had sex with this person? Has he ever had a relationship with her. It could be that he is psychologically obsessed with her. He may want to consider talking to his therapist. Also, maybe he can attempt to willingly have sexual fantasies about you during the day, so as to get his mind more used to seeing you in this way. Have him look at you and focus on your body during sex, to try to persuade his mind as to what he really wants.
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