How do you deal with a brother who is not mentally all there?


Question:
He is not retarded, mentally handicapped nor challenged. He does not suffer from any mental illness far as I know (nothing very severe.) and yet he is mentally not there. For example, he tries to hang clothes all over his apartment without hangers and does not think about getting hangars (until I mentioned it to him.) He buys funiture that is about 1000 dollars yet refuses to buy a 5 dollar screwdriver to put the stuff together. He buys canned food and yet never even considers buying a can opener. The thought never enters his mind. How can I bring him back to reality? What may be causing this non-sensical behavior?

Not to mention the finances. I will not mention details of this however he is my roomate and the person I am supposedly be sharing expenses with. He cares about rent yet does not get the idea that saving money may actual help him with this. He can't seem get the concept to his head. Help please.

Answers:
I think your brother might have some mental disorder. Are you sure he's not mentally retarded? I would recommend he get tested. He might have autism, or obsessive-compulsive disorder, or something like that.

His behavior doesn't make sense, clearly.

Good luck to you,

Dana
Actually, there is nothing wrong with him. He just does things differently from you.and that bothers you a great deal. At the most, his thoughts may be a little preoccupied..but so are millions of people.

And if he's not paying rent, then tell him you need to get another roommate and he'll have to move out. You won't do that to your brother? Then you aren't helping him at all if you are there to rescue him constantly.
He sounds pretty normal. He is just distracted by life itself and cant be bothered with the small things. He needs a full time maid to handle all those other chores. If he's making enough money, that's the way to go.
he just sounds stupid. no offence, i wouldn't say retarded, just a bit of a moron.

a good yelling should do the trick, if not scare him with fire sometimes.
What you have discribed sounds like high functioning autisum. (aspergers) If that is what it is this is bigger than you which means your going to need some help. He is an adult which means he has missed valuable time.

What he will need is rehab to help him rethink the most common task. What would take an average person a few times to get takes someone with aspergers serveral times to get. This has nothing to do with their intelligence however, its all in retrieval.

Most people with aspergers are so intelligent it is most of the time overlooked as just lazyness, being obsessive, or single minded. Im not saying this is what it is, I am however saying that with the info that you have given it sounds like something you may want to look into.
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