Please Help .Feeling So lonely...?
Question:
I feel stuck because i cant go out alone so i cant meet people.
Any ideas would be great .Thanks
Answers:
It is normal to feel nervous, especially about meeting new people. Depression is an inward problem that tends to have outward consequences. You may feel that people will know that you are depressed, and you may feel that you cannot handle social situations.
You should take baby steps, and a good start would be to join organizations that share your common interests. If you are into gardening, then join a group of your area gardeners. By sharing your passions with people, you can relate to them and it is easier to break the ice.
Just keep your head up and keep getting out and doing things. You will do great.
could you add how old you are? If you're younger or the same age as me, I might be of some help...
I'm like that to so I go to church.
Theres bound to be so many other people in the same boat of you. Maybe look for some groups you can attend and meet new people, good luck and I hope you are feeling better in the near future, you are not alone and always remember that x
Maybe it might be helpful for you to find something you enjoy doing which also allows you to meet people - like volunteering somewhere.. getting a part time job.. working for habitat for humanity.. wandering around the bookstore.. whatever you enjoy.
If not, you can buy an anxiety workbook at the bookstore and use that to help you work through some of your anxiety.
What about a christian church camp . There are many on line. Just borrow the money.
First of all you are not alone, your depression has triggered some kind of social anxiety disorder.This is going to sound harsh but rather than taking the easy option to console yourself by looking for answers on-line I would suggest seeking professional advice from your doctor ,may be you could take a member of your family or a friend along for support .After you have made the initial steps it will get easier I promise.take care x
The first step is to avoid repeating your first sentence, "I have depression." You should believe that you are quite normal, because you really are. As Gem Lou said you are not alone, there are many people who have the same feeling when they're at your age. The first step is to believe in yourself. The second is not comparing yourself with others. When I was at your age experiencing almost the same problem, whenever I saw people hanging out or even laughing with each other, it made me more and more disappointed but at some point I took a good look at myself and saw that I'm just ENVYING others and that's all! Then I tried to be one of them!
To do that, I tried not to be very sensitive, I didn't put much pressure on myself to have friends, or be like others etc. instead I let myself live, and in no less than 10 days everything was normal and I found myself with some new friends enjoying myself. Believe me it's just like that. It is only that you are thinking too much about it. Just interact and communicate with people. Don't push yourself to make friends out of everone. Let everything be normal and you'll see the result.
don't forget, stop all those negative thoughts "I'm alone, I'm depressed, I need help etc" there's no one who can help you, it's all you by yourself. AND be sure that you can do this.
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sounds like there is anxiety going on in your life too. It is making you feel miserable, and I am sorry. depression with anxiety is common. Go back to your doctor and tell him/her about it. You may need medication for it, and then you will feel so much more like yourself.
i have depression to it helps to go out and meet people even though its weird and you dont really want to it will help so push yourself and go do it! :)
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