Depressed about comments?


Question:
My band had our 3rd show last night. We are an experimental band and to be honest I'm really humble. Well, these two guys that saw us play at our 2nd show came and they wanted us to sign the free cd's we were handing out before we went on. So that gave me a little confidence, but then today I see that they left comments saying things like, "Oh were going to see them tonight, they are so awful." "Possibly the worst band ever." They then said today that were "bad, as usual." It turns out they were there to see a different band that was playing. Anyway, it was a real blow to my self esteem. I already felt like people were looking at us weird while we were playing. I'm driving my gf crazy by constantly asking her if were are good or not and she always say's yes, but at the same time she say's she is biased because I'm her bf. I don't know what to do to make myself feel better about this.

Answers:
Well we all know the saying, you are your own toughest critic. If when you listen to your own music on your band's CD, you think you sound pretty good, then I think it's safe to say that you guys are good. But even if you don't think you sound good that doesn't necessarily mean you aren't good-- you may just have a few things to work on, or maybe you are just being too hard on yourself.

There are always going to be people who don't like your music. There are people out there who don't like The Beatles, Van Halen, or any other band for that matter, because it just may not be their style. But that's okay, just keep your chin up because there are and will be people who think you are awesome. And it sounds like you are doing what you love, which is what is most important.
Most famous, well known, well liked artists continue to take professional lessons. I am sure you have room for improvement, but keep your head up and practice, practice, practice. I am sure you would not be getting paying gigs if you sucked as bad as the losers say you did. Maybe your gf should get some of her friends to post some good comments. Maybe try something cover with a kick, you just might break through with that idea. A song you could play in your sleep and then add your own touch. Good luck! Keep playing, keep learning.
It doesn’t mean anything; they just might not like your genre of music. Not everyone is going to like what you play, that doesn’t mean that people don’t like it either. Stop being so down on yourself! Confidence is the key, go up there and own the stage. I bet you things will pick up.
Not everyone will like the music you play, but i'm sure you have a lot of talent. At least you're in a band and doing what you enjoy, that's the main thing.

Remember, just play you're own tunes and you'll no doubt have at least a handful of people that think you kick ****!
Show business, whilst sometimes very rewarding can also be very hard. I'm sure even the BEATLES were criticized by some people. If you can't take the critical people get out of the business or you'll drive yourself mad.
Nobody wants to hear negative comments about what they do, but if you want to perform for the public then it comes with the territory. Was the audience expecting an experimental band? If they thought you were going to play popular tunes and you played out-there stuff they would certainly be looking at you weird.
take a recording and put the link in the questions. all people have their own taste. i love j-pop i don't like heavy metal or classic music everyone has there own taste.
Don't mind the haterz
Asking your girlfriend if your band is good is like when your girlfriend asks you "Do these pants make me look fat?"
(you both know what the right answer is to those questions!)

Okay, so maybe you guys need work, or maybe the data you're getting back from the experiment isn't what you had hoped for. So what? Maybe the people who left those comments don't get your music.

Also, what do you expect by the 3rd show? It ain't easy getting up there (you've probably heard the old saying "If it was EASY, EVERYBODY would be doing it!"). Plus, being in a band means not only dealing with how YOU play, but how your bandmates play, and on top of that, dealing with the different personalities and varying levels of committment with each person.

In light of that, the mere fact that you even HAVE a band is a helluva accomplishment to start with, so cut yourself some slack, you're just starting out.

Just keep on practicing, and if you can, make some recordings of what you're playing so you and your bandmates can get an idea of what you sound like to an audience. Use that to gauge and modify your sound, not the reviews. Remember, generally speaking, people who review aren't people who can do!

Good luck and don't give up!
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