My next door neighbor...?

Question:

When I was 6 my neighbor sexually harrassed me. I didn't do anything because I was 6. Now I'm 14 and he hasn't done anything for 7 years. I went to his house to see if he wanted to come over to swim. He said yes, but he needed to finish doing the dishes. So I said I would wait. And he invited me in, I accepted his invitation not thinking anything would happen. I asked him if he wanted help, and he said sure. So I started helping. And then he pretty much tried to rape me. He didn't, but he did sexually harrass me, badly. He left no proof, and no one believes me. I told my mom and she told me to stop trying to get so much attention, and she told me that she was going to ask him. And if he said he didn't do anything then I would be in trouble. Obviously he said that he didn't do anything. So I am in trouble, but I'm not grounded from the phone or computer or friends. Next time my mom and dad are going out my neighbor is going to 'babysit' me.

What should I do?

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Answers:
I'm so sorry your family doesn't believe you.

You can call the cops with or without "proof." I called the cops once just because some guys in a car were seriously hassling me. I just wanted it on record, in case they tried anything else. The cops came to my house and took a report.

Absolutely DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT be alone with this guy!!! If he tried to rape you once, and especially now that he feels like he's getting away with it, he will try to do it again. This kind of behavior just escalates unless it's stopped.

What the hell are your parents thinking, asking this guy to babysit you? If I were you, I'd do anything to get out of it. Ask your parents if they want to be responsible for you're getting raped? Get graphic- do they want to have to meet you in the ER? Go to the police and explain why they left you with this guy? Tell them if they do they are going to face arrest and exposure themselves. Tell them that you told another adult about the rape attempt, and they know you told your parents. Then go tell that adult- preferably a counselor or a nurse. If you call a hotline, I think they;ll keep it on record, and can probably give you good advice. Call CPS and make a report. Call the police and make a report. Tell them you've told your parents. Get it on record and let your parents know it's on record. That way, if they leave you with this guy, they are liable and could get in huge trouble.

If this still doesn't dissuade them DO ANYTHING to avoid being alone with this guy. I'm serious- go to a teen shelter, go and stay with a friend. Rape is a brutal and horrible experience, and you do not want to have to go through it!

If you jackass neighbor is messing with you, mostly likely he's messing with other kids, too. Unfortunately you might not have much proof of this one incident, but reporting it alerts police and CPS that this guy is trouble. It might help if somebody has a future case against him, and the cops might keep a closer eye on him, and let him know they are watching him. Make noise, then at least he knows if he messes with you again, he's in trouble. (DNA evidence and all). Silence will encourage him.

Your parents sound really messed up. Get all the outside help you can.

I believe your post could be serious. This kind of **** DOES happen. It happened to me- I was sexually abused by a neighbor, and my parents just wanted to be clueless- denial was how they dealt with things. (And they were facing big medical and economic problems that distracted their attention.) So the abuse went on far longer than it might have, with far more damaging results.

If you are just goofing around, making this up -PLEASE DON'T! It might be fun to rile up so many emotions in people, or to see how they would deal with this tough situation. But what you're doing makes it harder for people who really have to deal with this ****. I believe you could be telling the truth. I gave my advice with that in mind.

But anybody who lies about this ****, just know- You're making it more likely for someone to be abused or raped. Because you're helping created a climate where they are less likely to be believed. So think about it- do you want to be responsible, on however small a level, for perpetuating such incredible pain? Your actions DO affect people.

call the cops and tell them

Keep telling family until they listen go to grandparents, uncles, aunts whoever will take your side and then have them take you to file a formal police complaint..

Why would you invite a pervert over to your house for a swim?Stay away from the guy!

go over to his house but hide a video camera in ur purse or sumthing. or have someone stand at the window, u need to get real evidence to send his perverted *** to jail

Get Proof!! Hide a camera somewhere or video recorder or whatever.Or just tell him to go to the prostitute house if he wants some action

Tell the police. Or video tape him if he's coming to your house. But you could buy some mace. Squirt the monkey in the eye. And call your parents.

Your kidding me right.. you actually don't know what to do.. if some old freak tried to rape you and is coming to babysit you should obviously get the hell out of there and tell someone else.. maybe a teacher? Non-Rapist Neighbour? Police? But if you really dont want to do that then your lying and it was just a lame post..

Get one of those "babysitter" cams. These are basically hidden cameras that are hidden inside innocuous objects like teddy bears. A hidden tape recorder to capture the audio would also be a good idea.

Arm yourself with a can of mace. Make sure you are in view of the camera at all times and carry the audio on your person. If he tries anything you will have the evidence and the means to defend yourself.

Call the police right when it starts, call 911 and set the phone down, they will always send them anyways and maybe catch the guy in the act.

Or my best answer would be to just shoot the fagget, but that prob will end you up in jail for life so, set him up so you have proof.

If you're still in school, see the school nurse. Just tell her your story. I'm thinking that you're not finished with school if you need a sitter. If I'm wrong, then see the police. Don't let this happen!

You need to keep expressing to your parents how he hurt you and if your afraid of him baby sitting you then plz let your parents know the seriosness of the situation. It is not a game and stay away totally and completely and don't go to his house for any reason. That is giving the ***mixed signals.

I can't believe they would let him watch you. Even if they don't believe you they should have some worry. Ask if you can have a friend over so you have help or proof if he tries something. Do you have a video or audio tape, maybe he'll say or do something and you will have proof.

If you are sincere file a police report.

The weight of the courts is on your side.

The police will investigate and check their records for previous complaints.

Call the police ASAP.

I would call the cops too..maybe that will make them believe. I would threaten them with it!

Child Protective Services. School councilor. Any teenage hotline. I doubt the police will help much. They'll come over and talk with your parents, who don't help, right? Keep telling people until they listen. How old is your neighbor?

well now that you know this guy SERIOUSLY can't be trusted,
do everything in your power to stay away from him

you have to keep trying to get to your parents. It's not something that you would joke about, and they should understand that

Go to friends for help and alert everyone until someone will listen to you!!

i bet your parnets have a gun or something if he trys anything get it and put that son of a ***** out of his misery

Call the police now! have them come over to your house and tell them your story. They should go over there and investigate. It doesn't matter if there is proof. The neighbor will know the police are aware of it.
If you don't and he gets away with it next time (it might not be you )but he will do it to some one else.
He is dangerous and you need to let everyone you can know about it.

go up into your room all night and lock the door. keep your cell with u (if u have one) and call the cops if he tries to do ANYTHING bad to u.

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