I an going to go crazy if I dont break away!! But how?
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I am sorry that your mom feels it necessary to tell you of all your fathers infidelities. You are going to have to give mom a little "tough love". Tell her again that you do not want to hear details of your dads indiscretions and that if she persists, you are going to leave her home or ask her to leave yours. Then do it. Your mom needs to go see a therapist. She is dumping on you. You say mom has no friends, she is probably very desperate and very scared. I feel sorry for her and your dad should be ashamed of himself. If he no longer wanted to be married to your mom, he should have just gotten a divorce, not run around on her and made a fool of himself. He should be kicked in the *** for putting you and your mom through this.
Use the technique for reprogramming negative thoughts, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2. Walk away/go home if she repeats this, after saying that you asked her not to mention it again, and tell her that each time she repeats it, will increase the time until she sees you again. Tell her she needs to seek therapy, or at least journal her feelings, to express them, maybe writing a letter to him, stating how she feels, even if not posted (burnt in a metal container, with the ashes flushed down the toilet, symbolically).
Get some counseling and tell your mom to get some as well. You can't let the problems of your parents relationship poison your home or marriage. Get your mom involved in some outside activities.like volunteering at the local hospital or nursing home. Or with Girl Scouts or Big Brothers/Big Sisters or with a church group. Or maybe with the city council or school board. She needs to be out in the world with other people. She needs to be busy and productive and have a reason to get out into the world. That above all else will help her get through it all. We all need to feel useful and worth something. Good luck.
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