Forced thearapy?
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all i want is for my mum and dad to stop giving me crap lectures on, we love you, just remember that!and if it could be different it would be and and crud deep love conversations, you know, and all i want is for them too shut up! i just want to be treated normal and not watched out for that every little thin gthey say will upset me, i am a big girl and i can handle myself, and how do in get them to friggin shut up?
they werent there to say i love you in my childhood, so why do they suddenly force themselves to say it now just so i will be happy? it is driving me away even further!!! i just want them to get everything separated and not act like i am a ticking time friggin bomb.
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If you don't want therapy and you re parents wont listen tell the therapist you are not interested in working with her chances are she will not want to wast her time if you don't want to talk
I know how hard your situation is, as I went through it as well. Looking back now, it felt like it was going to go on forever. I am now married, with one child, and another one on the way, so I think about it differently now.
Sometimes our society tells parents that to do a good job is to provide the material "necessities" for our children, but this doesn't leave much time to show our love to them, or to our spouses.
Parents are people too, just like you, and no matter who they are, or what they've done, they love their kids with everything and only want the best for them. I would never want to effect my daughter's life in a bad way, and if I ever do, I'll be really upset. Your parents probably just don't want what they're doing now to make a negative impact on your life. The fact that they're getting therapy for you may well be misguided, but it is a caring gesture. Also, the advice they're getting from people is most probably to tell you the things that are annoying you as much as possible, to make you feel loved and not that it's any of your fault.
If you don't want to use the therapy for the divorce, talk about other things. They'll never know. Use it, I say.
use that power that you were using while writing this question. now go to your parents and tell everything that is on your mind.
well then let them know how you feel. Do it in a mature way, dont just go about a yelling and bein a smart ***. sit down with the 2 of them and calmly let them know how you feel. The more thought out and genuine you seem the farther you are likely to go with them. I learned this from an episode of the Cosby Show. ha ha ha Just messin
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