Im cutting myself?
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Tell your parents so you can get help. The longer you cut, the harder it is to stop because it becomes an addiction.
You need help. Don't worry or be ashamed.
If you can't tell your parents, talk to the guidance counselor at school. No one will be mad. They want to help you.
the best thing to do ..you probley do it when you arent around your friends well stay close to your friends ask them if they want to hang out when you tempt.. to cut your self. Its not good for you and one day you mite just have to face the fact to your parents that you cut if you dont quite hope taht works hunny
OK Sparkle, put down the blade. Now, go to emofree.com and read the free manual. If you really want to help yourself you will, here is the tool to do it. If you can't understand it write me back, tangleweb2b@yahoo.com, no more cutting!
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I used to be a cutter, the thought will always be there, but I have stopped cutting myself. My mom knew,and it took me years to tell her. Your parents won't be mad but more worried and they probably won't understand. You do need to tell them, but explain to them the feelings that make you want to cut, and if they get upset, let them, they are your parents, and sometimes its hard for people to understand cutters. You need to find another way to take your frustrations out. I did with my music. My friend did with art. It is a long process to stop, but with enough will to do it, you can. ^_^ Best of luck and if you ever need to talk, don't hesitated to email me
Women who cut themselves do so because that's one thing you can control in your life, I have never really understood why some women do this, but my own sister did this and it took a lot of therapy to stop her. It's a brutal thing and can kill you.
Cutting yourself is not the answer to anything and if you need that kind of control in your life take the first step and get in to counseling, even with a school councilor, that is a much better way to gain control then to cut yourself up, and you will always be reminded of it when you look at your scars, please get help before you cut too deep.
You may think you're helping yourself, but you're not, you could end up dead. If you want help go to counseling and end this horrible thing you're doing to yourself.
Hi Sparkle,
I think that you should let your parents know. They might be upset, but I'm sure they love you regardless and only want for you to be safe. I actually work in the Mental health field and I see this all the time. Tell your parents, they'll help. You could also ask them if you could get into therapy. A therapist could help you with any issues you may have. Don't give up because there is a solution. Also, ask yourself why do you cut, what happens before you get the urge so that you can work on some ways to stop. Never feel ashamed to talk to your parents, that is what they are there for. You are brave for stepping up and wanting to do something about it. I hope all works out for you!
do not do it. see a doctor who will refer you to a mental health team. try phoning help line such as mind, Samaritans to keep you occupied. I've struggled and come through it. challenge negative thoughts about what it is that is making you self harm. also remember that hurting yourself in one place is a way of numbing out pain in another. death is a evil thing to wish on a person and you need to recognize that you are a person and value you and your life.
Ok, I have this same problem but i told one of my best friends and asked her to tell my parents for me. It will be the hardest thing you will ever have to do. Believe me. It will also be akward for awhile around the people you love,but it will be like a boulder of your shoulder since someone will know. If you want to tell someone maybe write a letter or send an e-mail to your parents telling them what you are doing,It is much easier then telling them in words face to face. They will eventually come up and tlk to you about it and hopefully get you help. I am not fully recovered from this bad habbit but i am not doing it as much as i was when no1 knew. I Hope i helped. I know how it is to have so much emotinal pain to were you feel you have to do this to yourself so dnt feel like you are alone if you wan to tlk to any1 just email me at, pretty_lhs_gurll@yahoo.com. I would be more then glad to tlk to you.
Remember you are loved. Hold in there.
Bryonna
xxxx
Please call SAFE (Self-Abuse Finally Ends)
1-800-DONT-CUT (1-800-366-8288)
http://www.selfinjury.com/
They understand what it is like and can help you.
hey,it's saiyasha.ok,i've tried to cut myself once but couldn't do it.The thought of friends,family and everyonne who loved me kept clouding my mind.I did get mad enough one day and manged to make like a cat scratch on my arm.Once again i remebered everyone.Your parents love u and want to help you if u ever have any trouble.So r ur friends.They just want to keep u safe.The sooner u go 2 them the better or u'll never be able 2 tell them.The longer u put it off the harder it will get.
don't think about the worst that could happen.It will only become a burden.you'll regret it if u don't tell them.If u don't,you'll just keep making excuses the rest of ur life.Keeping even more secrets till they finally overflow and it won't be a good feeling.
Sparkle,
It will be difficult for you to stop cutting until you can come to understand the deeper reasons behind it. Most cutters have inner pain that they live with and they cut because it is pain that they can actually control, instead of the pain controlling them.
I would suggest seeing a therapist to help you explore the emotional pain you're feeling. You will probably discover a lot about yourself.
hey im goin thru the same except i told my mum who told my family which realy annoyed me but how i did it was tell her and give her some websites that explained it for the family and i also siad if you really need to you can tell someone like my nan who she can talk to, anyway she told my dad too and he was half the problem cause of my families drink issues.
i also told most my friends and my boyfriend who sometimes say 'have you done it again' and i just say 'yes' and get a bit down and he just hugs me and says its ok i understand which is great and really helps me and you know what i do it less now.
now one big thing i have learnt about self harm:
ONCE YOU TEL EVRY1 OR MOST AROUND YOU IT HAS NO MORE POWER trust me if i start to thibnk about self harm i think well hold on A. it will cause scars and B. what's the point it doesnt do much for me and i have learnt that is because it has no power cause it isnt a secret, its like a bad friend; the self harm becomes your friend that makes you feel good even though you are doin sumthn you know isnt goin to help in the long run, it takes over ur mind and tells you not to tell your parents, your friends or anyone, it wants you to keep secrets and even keep away from people you think you remember trusting, turns out as soon as you tell on that friend about how they do actually ruin your life the sooner that bad friend goes away JUST LIKE SELF HARM, the self harm will go away or appear less and less if you tell people.
sit down with your closest parent, give them time to be shocked and just accept that this will happen, show them a website explainin it like ones i will put in the sources list. tell your closest most trusted friends and give them the same time and tell them you want to stop, tell your school counsellor or whoever official like that.
most of all tell yourself you are better because you are, tell yourself to write in books instead and to scribble with red pen on your arms instead, hold ice cubes in your hand and squeeze instead of cut, hit your pillows really hard etc.
good luck and dont let anyone tell you, you do it for attention because people sometimes get that wrong about self harm, tell them that it is just a way of coping but you are strong because you are tryin to stop.
good luck xxx email me if you need to talk cause i know i do sometimes
talkin gets out all the bad stuff we hold in
Hey Spark-
I know how hard it can be to deal with this. I was a cutter and then progressed to burning- and even though I haven't done either in years, the scars I left are a constant reminder of what I did. Believe me - when you start feeling better, have a happy relationship with someone and just want to wear shorts or a tank top, it's a painful and constant reminder of where you came from.
You really must talk to someone. If not your parents or a responsible friend, then a teacher or guidance counselor. I know it's embarassing, but if you don't, it's almost guaranteed that things will get worse. I talked to a good friend of mine and then a counselor- I found out my cutting was a symptom of a disorder that wasn't my fault at all. My doctor put me on some medication and with the support of my friend, I'm doing much better! (I also got a tattoo on my wrist in kanji that means "strength and stability" as a constant reminder to myself to be strong, but I don't recommend tattoos for everyone..)
Oh- and get some unbiased information before you trust that emofree site. Here's the info from Wikipedia on it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/emotional_f...
Good luck - and just try to remember to be strong!
I can connect with you, I cut also. What I do when I feel like cutting, I call one of my friends. And talk to them... Not about whats going on, I just talk. About stuff that makes me happy. Or I take a bath, and make sure theres nothing sharp in there. It helps me a lot.
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Go see a therapist and talk about the childhood trauma you are not telling us about. Once this is addressed, you will stop cutting.
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