My husband and emotional issues.?

Question:

My husband has problems showing emotions. He does not show any type of emotion for anything. He has had several close family members pass and he showed nothing, He has admitted before to having issues with showing emotions. He said when he was a child he was not allowed to cry or show emotions. He said his parents would say be a man stop crying, suck it up, and he'd just hide it. I'm afraid this is not healthy, everyone has to show some sort of emotion to maintain a healthy relationship in life whether with your spouse, your kids, or whatever. How can we seek help for this issue?

Answers:
Most guys do have a thing where its extreamly hard for them to show emotion.My husband is like that as well. Some people deal well like that, and others, not so well. I don't, if I keep it bottled up, I explode. I would just suggest to sit down and talk to him about it, maybe see if he wants to open up to you. If he is still hesitant and it is causing problems, it is a difficult thing, but I would suggest therapy. ^_^ Best of Luck

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That's not necessarily true! If he can communicate with you in other ways & you & his boss & kids KNOW he loves you, etc. and he is a good provider, he may not need to show his emotions.

He may have Asperger's. Check book below, just in case.

If HE wants to learn to show emotions, couple's therapy or family therapy is the best, as it's the fastest & most effective. Go to a licensed counselor, for it.

Your husband has to want to get help.

If he his willing have his doctor refer him to a neuro-therapist or cognitive therapist. Both work with clients on thinking, feeling and behavior.

In the meantime, he may want to examine his beliefs and attitude and thinking habits.

What worked as a child does not necessarily work as an adult.

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Great question. I happen to know quite a bit on this topic after all I've had to help people through school with their problems. You're right. This is not normal and not showing emotions often leads to depression. He might already have depression. Here is my advice to get him help. If he refuses to go to a counsler there are a few steps you can take. Keeping emotions bottled up inside only lead to more problems.

1. Teach him to laugh. Tickling usually helps.

2. Suprise him sometimes even if it's just the simple thing of making his favorite meal while saying you're making his least.

3. Comfort him to lead him towards counseling/ be in it together.

4. Most of all love him for him and tell him he's perfect the way he is.

5. Ask him to discuss everything that's bothered him lately.

I hope this has helped.

Just stop badgering him about it. He is a man, and does not want you questioning him about his emotions. We men prefer not to blab everything and cry all the time. It's just the way it is. Live with it.

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