My parents think it's a joke?
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They think if there's anything I need to say I should say it to them. Right! I'd NEVER in a million years talk to them about some stuff. They'd think I was mental. What do I do?
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One way to deal with the things you cant say to your parents is to write them down. You don't have to keep the pages, tear them up , whatever. The idea is just to get it out of your head. Sometimes it is just important to voice those thoughts. You do know a psychiatrist is just someone who listens , not someone who solves your problems for you?
wow. your parents should accept the fact that your getting help for your problem, not make fun of you for it! you should always talk through your problems..so kudos to you for that. i do know how you feel about telling your parents things, if you arent close its probably not worth the try then. but i do hope that you guys can work something out
Either talk to your school psychologist or have another adult take you.
ignore what they say. Having a problem is really not a joke. Psychiatrists are not useless if they help you get your problems out in the open. Obviously going to the doctor is helping you deal with things. The best advice I can give you, is ignore what they say, and tell them harrassing you is not helping your problems. Also, if you do go to a doctor, sometimes they offer to talk to you parents and tell them to back off about it. I hope everything gets better...and sometimes parents can be a pain...everyone has gone through it=)
yell at them and get really depressed and then they will think some thing is wrong with you and thn they will take you.no don't do that what you should do is to tell them that you would feel better to talk to some one who doesn't know anything about you and who can't judge you the way they can. tell them that this is what you want and that you don't think it is fair that they make fun of it and that they just don't understand
A psychiatrist doesn't listen. A psychiatrist gives drugs. If you want someone who will listen and help you cope with your teenage problems, try a counsellor. Most cities have a teen counselling centre or a teen health clinic. Just pop in there and see if you can talk to someone. Your parents don't need to know.
How old are you? Can you afford it on your own? Im majoring in Psychology and also go to therapy....Im 23 years old and my parents give me issues about it every now and then. However, this could also be a cultural thing (I dont know what culture your family "follows.").
You have any friends or other family members you can talk to? Or u just want to talk to a stranger (cuz I know what can be easier). Where are you located? I live in California. Im not tryin to be a weirdo, but maybe you can come to me and talk or something...I dont know, just a thought. I have been in your position before.
If you dont want to me about it you have to talk to you parents a bit and let them know that you dont want to discuss certain things with them because you feel that it would hurt them (something like that).
You can say, "Mom, Dad..I respect the fact that you want me to talk to you about stuff, but seriously there are certain things I would rather not say to you. I dont want to say certain things because I dont want you to feel that you were a bad parent.etc,etc
Honestly, it takes some sweet talking but you have to let them understand that you are (depressed or whatever it is you feel) and that you feel that going to therapy would help you become a (happier person, or whatever it is you want to gain from therapy).
So yeah, if you live in CA then maybe we can work something out.
Either way good luck.....you can email me anytime too (I try to check it often).
-Lila
BTW....this is for (skunk pie's) comment...you are right,a psychatrist prescribes the drug (after an evaluation), but what you need is a psychologist....this is where you go for therapy and then if you do needs meds, your psychologist will refer you to a psychiatrist. Hope that doesnt sound confusing, but dont tell your parents you want to see a psychiarist, tell them you want to see a psychologist (who yes, would be a type of counselor)
E-mail me if you would like to talk. My kids friends think I am cool.
Well, it sounds like you have approached your parents about it and they did not take it seriously, therefore, you should seek out someone else that you trust. You are probably going back to school pretty soon and I know it is probably difficult at the beginning of the school year, but maybe there is a teacher, guidance counselor, etc at your school who you can trust. You should approach them and tell them your situation that you have some things going on in your life and need someone to talk to. If finding someone at school is not an option, maybe you belong to a church or sports team or some other organization where there is someone. Most times they will be more than happy to help you. Be honest and tell them that your parents are not taking you seriously. It is nothing at all against your parents, but maybe they don't see the whole "big picture" as to what is happening in your life and sometimes it takes another adult to shed some light on the situation.
heres what i would do- i would go up to a friend and ask if they have some time to talk...tell them that you want to confide in them but to not repeat any some any of this serious stuff. or if that doesn't work for you then keep a journal and keep it with you at all times (thats what i do). or just scream in a pillow from frustration... just try not to keep it bottled up inside for too much longer because then i (personally) think you'll go insane-thinking of answers to questions that you can't/won't/never ask. anyway i hope i helped =^~^=
The fact that you have problems and you want to talk it out, that is a good sign. There was a bad remark though about someone who gets payed and you just want him to listen. Going to the psychologist should not be just a one way session. You talk and she listens. You should go there with a thought of wanting a difference and getting help. Otherwise why don't you try your teddybear??
Well, I think the solution in your case is simple. I do believe that parents are there not just to make the child, but the assist on their growth and to support them. They owe you that. So start with the simple fact that you have problems and you have parents. The thing you need to do to solve your issues is to talk to someone. You say you cannot talk to your parents because there are some stuff that you might be embarrased. Well here is some news, they are your parents. No matter how screwed up and nasty you became, they are still your parents. Your growth and personality is the fruit of their parental guidance. You are their fruit. So talk to them. Just start with the nastiest thing that you have in your mind. Trust me. If they cannot handle it, they will run for a psychologist themselves first thing in the morning. And at the end, you will get what you want. :-))
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