Help!! I'm moving into my first apartment tomorrow!?
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You know, the more you tell yourself that, the more you are setting yourself up to feel those emotions overwhelmingly.
Arrange to talk to your Mom for an hour or so each night...just to touch bases. Tell her you're worried about not being able to do it, and you want to use her to calm you down every night.
Then when you get into your new place, start exploring the neighbourhood. Get to know people there, and make friends where you can. Make a list of sites close by to your new home that you want to explore.
If you go into the move with a positive attitude...that is that you are determined to make friends and have a good time on your own, then you will be more inclined to enjoy your time.
Attitude is EVERYTHING!!
well certainly if youre moving out - you must hate living with your parents. i mean i hate living with them, but i live with the mbecause its the financially sound thing to do. sinc eyou have made the decision to go live by yourself, you must really want to do it, and have thought it was hte best decision at the time. home sickness is irrelevant. you can always go back. and its time to be out on your own, you must think, cause youre doing it.
living alone is so much better than living with your parents.
An hour is not too great a distance. if you get homesick, the best thing to do would be to call your mom. Try to resist traveling to your mom's house, because you will have a harder time adjusting to life out on your own. It's ok to be nervous about your first move out of the house, but it's ok to enjoy it and look forward to it as well. You will adjust quickly to your new freedom and then you'll be happy with it.
6 months isn't a long lease its usually a year so thats good. If its really that bad you can move home but just pay your rent that's left. And you can go to see her whenever. You might like it, you get to do whatever you want.
My young friend..there are many things you can do these days so you don't feel so homesick. I recommend having some pictures of family and friends around your new home for you to see... and you are only an hour away, so you can always go visit on some weekends. These days, phone plans are cheap and I'm sure your mom will call you often.
Now.. instead of missing everyone.. try to view it as an adventure. Your family and friends are close enough to rescue you so to speak at any time...but life is an adventure if you make it out to be one for yourself. Start every day fresh and new and look for the good things about being on your own. We've all been homesick before... first time at summer camp, first day at school when we were little... it is a fear, and you can conquer it. I have faith in you.
I've been in the EXACT same situation as you are. Trust me, it won't be that bad especially because it's only an hour away (think about the people who live hours and hours away, or states away, or even countries). If you do get homesick, you'll easily be able to visit on weekends (as I did). I lived with a friend, and she did get homesick for the first night or two but she got used to it quickly. I thought I would be a lot more homesick than I thought because it was my first time being away from home for so long but the only time I was sad and about to cry was the moment my mom had to leave after helping me move my stuff in. After that, everything felt really normal and I felt more than okay. Don't worry about it. :)
just call her on your cell phone when you get lonely
Every person has to experience this sometime in their life and this is your time my friend!!
You should be excited! Be happy that you get those late nights, the ability to eat that Espresso Chip ice cream late at night. The bulk packaging of Top Ramen is awaiting to sit beside your kitchenette sink!
I am totally serious:
Have a slumber party with your mom. Tonight, sleep at her house one last night. Watch your favorite movies, fall asleep on her couch. Next time, it is your time to host the party at your OWN place!
Yeeeeeeeeeeee! Get pumped. You are not apart from your family. This is your adventure, but your mother is only a call away. Those popcorn nights can be a handful. Also, having your mom get a chance to live as you do and see what you see can get her approval and ease your spirits!
YAY! You are growing up! ;)
6 months will go by fast, and by the end of 1st month you will be alot better. I moved "back home" after my parents moved away. I was 18, and scared to death. Are you moving for a job? If so, your job will keep you busy. Do yourself a favor.don't go out and get credit cards. They can ruin a young life. Take your time. Yardsales can also be alot of fun alone or with a new friend. You can get stuff for your new apt ! Take a deep breath and jump in! You'll find you don't know as much as you thought you did! Good Luck!! PS: If you are that close to your mom, how do you think SHE is gonna feel? As scared about your well-being as you are!!
Pack your teddy bear and the blanket you're used to sleeping with right next to you in the car along with your familiar pillow.
(I'm not joking, this can really help you)
For the first few nights, put on some music, run a fan, or turn the TV on low to provide a constant familiar background sound you can get to sleep to -- this will block out unfamiliar night noises.
With your Mom, decide on a specific time period when you're both available to speak on the phone. The first week you may want to start with once a day. The second week, everyother day, eventually working your way down to once or twice a week as you wean your dependence and spread your wings.
In your new place, invite other girls your age in for a movie or pizza night, or for a game night. Be active out of doors, and show your willingness to speak woth others. (Cautious on the boy side - and first off seeking the girls)
You're 19. Part of growing up is leaving home and doing this life thing on your own. You're going to miss your mom, it'd be wrong if you didn't. You're going to miss your home, your bed, your bedroom. It is comfortable. Living on your own can be exciting too. You'll be able to spread your wings, have independence and make your own choices. It is a freedom that is worth the pain. You'll be okay... call your mom, meet some new friends, and join a club or group or team that keeps you busy. You have to grow up, and this is part of it...
You'll be able to handle it . It just takes some getting used to. I got married when I was 18 and moved from NY to CA. It was very very hard. But, at least your only an hour away. You can go home on weekends and stuff. I'm in California, so I'm stuck here by myself. It'll probably be really different and hard when you get there at first. Just hang in there and talk to your mom on the phone. It'll get better and you might even like the new independence you get. You can do whatever you want all day long!! Thats the best part.
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