When you were at school do you remember ever being really nasty to someone do you think about it much now?
Question:
i look back on it and really regret it i dont now what to do i wouldnt want to meet up with her and appologise because if she cant remember it i wouldnt want to bring back memories for the girl she probably wouldnt even remember it
what do you think
thank you for your ideas
xxx
vici
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You know, when I was in fourth grade, I was in like a "pack" with three other girls and we were friends with this new girl who came later in the year. I still remember her name, Kara. I really liked her, but the other girls didnt and I crumbled under peer pressure. They were the kind of girls that were like "if you dont do what we do, then you can't be with us". I was a real needy kid and didn't seem to ever have enough friends so even though I felt bad for things i said and did...i did them anyway so I would have protection from people like them. Well, I remember that one time we picked on her really bad and it actually got physical. We had pushed her and were holding her against a door at school. None of the teachers did anything...as far as I know, she never told anyone. Not one freakin teacher helped her. I got sick of hurting her...so I turned on the other girls and were forever "the enemy". It was all so stupid and I finally realized that I was actually damaging someone. Those stupid girls never learned their lesson, and I never actually apologized to Kara, but in the end, I tried to stand up for her with one other girl against "the pack". Right now, I wish that I could find her and tell her I'm sorry for all the things that we did to her and said to her. Her life was terrorized every day in fourth grade, and she never once told the teacher, and never once did a teacher help her, or any student for that matter. She was patient and always forgiving, and we treated her like crap numerous times. It's something I will always regret, because I know that we hurt her.
To you I say this: Even if you don't think she remembers, you have no idea if she does. Find her, apologize to her, and not only might it make her feel better, but also make you feel better, and you two might even become friends. I moved away and never had that chance, so I am constantly thinking back and making myself feel like crap, because I should feel like crap for those things I did, but I'm glad I learned from them. Good luck.
Hey Vics, i believe that the past is not important, what's done is done and we all do and say regretfull things, i concentrate on the here and now and try not to persecute myself with past or future worries.
I'm sure that like me u have never harmed a person or done wrong as many have, soooo stop the worry, have a brew, choc bic, put feet up and breathe out.
No I don't think about SAYING something really nasty...but I do think about the persons in junior high who said really nasty things to me.
no, but i reamber when i was in the 1st grade, 2 mean girls used to be really mean to me. i reamber the time when i drew pictures for them, which took me forever, and they ripped it in front of me. i reamber when they used to tell everyone to ignore me. i reamber the time when they used to make me cry, and never wanted to go to school. i reamber the time when one of their moms came to my mom and said "your daughter made my daughter sick" and it was not true, and my mother punished me, and cried for like ever, and i will never forget the times, but do you know what? i went through it, and guess what, they are my best friends now, and i can relay and i know i have their backs. they told me they were really sorry and they drew the sorry picture from 1st grade, and i still have it and im in the 8th grade now! i know, but the point is to say sorry no matter! if they forgot, then its history, just be truley nice. dont regret it because that was yesterday. now is today, and never look back, just look ahead, and never do it again , be nice to her for now on, and if she still reambers, tell her you are really really sorry!
i wish you great luck!!
xoxo
I never actually picked on anyone at school but there was this one kid everyone used to make fun of and I always used to watch and just say nothing. That's probably even worse because it's probably the equivalent of being a weak sheep in a herd. I think about it a lot and it really bothers me. I've never let it happen since though.
I have that problem sometimes. One little girl i was mean to in school got shot (accidentally) by her brother and ended up dying, so that makes me feel pretty bad. The girl probably does remember it. if you ever saw her, or found her online you should apologise.
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