How do you socialise?
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Give some sort of a greeting. Then try asking questions about themselves. Start out really simple. If the weekend has just passed, ask what they did over it. If it's coming up, ask what they're planning on doing. Tell them about yourself. Share information (hobbies, likes, dislikes, any type of things you're involved in, organizations, future plans, goals), but don't be too personal of course. What I find to be a real good conversation-setter is to share stories (either funny or interesting), that seems to move things along nicely. The beautiful thing about conversation is that one thing leads to another and eventually you'll probably get wrapped up in a nice long talk, unless of course the person you're talking to is really bland, in which case you know you're not the one who's unsociable! I really wish you much luck in your encounters!
talk about music,the newest fashion,newest episode of your favorite show.that type of stuff
There are no recipies. There is only one rule: be yourself. Otherwise, you'll end up unhappy!
start making friends in school or somewhere, and when you have a friend he/she invites you into a party/occasion try to mingle with the crowd people ask you stuff you answer and try to ask them stuff 2, try to make your self comfortable, "drink a lil bit of alcohol you will feel more comfortable. then ask people their cell #. so you can call them and maybe hang out somewhere next time... just be cool
>talk about something you have in common...
Most of the little cliches I'm in come from people I work with..
I start getting comfy around them so I hang out with them and they introduce me to their friends and I just keep making bunches of em..
Good luck with all this, I know how rough it is..
It all of a sudden hit me after high school that all my friends were pretty much gone-making new friends can be scary..
MYSPACE!! YOU MUST HAVE FRIENDS THEIR...NOW IS NOT ABOUT FRIENDZ, ITS ABOUT WHO YOU R, YOU HAVE NO FAITH IN YOUR SELF AND YOU GOT NO CONFIDENCE IN YOU! U DONT NEED TO IMPRESS NOBODY JUST B URSELFE! DONT THINK WHEN YOUR AROUND PEOPLE, IF THEY DONT LIKE YOU THEN YOU MUST BE TOOO GOOD FOR THEM. YOU JUST GOTTA BE MORE OPEN MINDED, GO OUT MORE, SOCIALISE MORE WITH PEOPLE ONLINE THEN GO OUT INTO THE REAL WORLD, DONT BE SHY, IF ANYTHING, GO WIT A PERSON WHO IS MORE SHY THEN YOU ARE. THAT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER AND MORE CONFIDENT!! GOOD LUCK FRIEND!!
u got so many advice. just another one. go to the library or bookshop. see someone who's reading a book, whisper quietly hows the book? and hopefully the conversation continues.
or take a book and ask someone whether he/she has read it. go to the magazine section, many browsers there. be bold and ask them. goodluck
I have exactly the same problem. At the start of the year I joined a beginners dance class and that has really helped a) to meet people and b) boost my confidence. Ive also been on a few evening courses. There you will meet a right mix of people and as everyone is interested in the same thing its easier to talk. Maybe do some voluntary work and as someone else mentioned try Myspace. You can do a search for people locally and you could chat to them over that and then you could maybe meet them at some point as long as you are careful. I hope you find some helpful answers among the replies. I know it can be really tough and it doesnt make you feel great but it does get better. Good luck. x
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