got a problem and some advice from a guy(or girls) point of view would be nice?


Question:
i have a friend thats a real jerk. we live in the same neighborhood and a new boy our age moved in next door me. he is kind of cute but i wouldn't go out with him because he's more of the best friend type. well this girl didnt see that and she asked him out within seconds after he moved in. he turned her down really nicely saying he wanted to get used to everything and get to know her first. she doesn't take kindly to rejection and told everyone he was gay. he was already having a hard time fitting becuase hes shy and now people think hes gay. i told everyone he wasnt gay and it was just my ex friend being a retard. he was really grateful for that and asked me out i gently declined saying i barely knew him and liked another guy. i didnt tell him though he seemed more of a best friend and my ex friend would probably spread a nasty rumor about me. he seemed crushed and now i kind of regret it even though im not attracted to him. if i told him yes he would probably be happier and more confident coming to a new place with a girlfriend but i dont think its fair for him to have a girlfriend who doesn't really like him that way. were still friends i guess but i can tell he wants to be more than friends. what should i do?

Answers:
Hang out with him more. Since he's new you may only think he's friend material from first impressions.
Do things like go to the movies with him, but only as friends [just make it casual].

Also he may have lingering emotions for you because you stood up for him. He may have never had that before and it feels like love when it's really just gratitude.
Be gentle. If what I say is the case then rejecting him more would be harmful. Let the feeling linger and it may go away on its own.

Other Answers:
Show him what you've just written.
Hang out with more mature people.
go out with him as friends have a good time find out if there is more to it than friends mabe thats all he wants to
watch the movie "just friends" or any number of other movies you DID crush the guy BUT he will get over it we all do
That friend is DESPERATE! She is willing to lose a good friendship over a boy? Be happy you let her go, all others will soon see her true self. As for the boy (space) friend, you could invite him and some of your other friends (boys and girls) for a movie, mall, park, etc.
Get him understand his new surroundings and help him assimilate. FYI: he should not have asked you out as a "thanks" either.
Don't feel pity and become his girlfriend. You are yourself and have to live your own live, just befriend him and help... that is about as close as you should get.

Good luck girl!
Just be honest about your feelings, and he should understand. In due in time, things will cool down, and people will get to know him. For you friend that did that, get rid of her, because real friends don't back stab, like she did. You should be his best friend, and well who knows, someday you, and him could be husband and wife, we all change are views when we get older. Look at him in the inside, not on the outside. Friendship is the best path to take in begining, and towards the end ??Never know, and he seams nice!

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