i have a 74 yr old father who also has a sort of mental problem please suggest how he can get help.?

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im a 43 yr old who suffers from dementia early stages my father with whom i live drove me worse always saying im crazy but yet he could be very dangerous his self . but wont admit it. his wife my mother passed almost 4yrs ago i have never seen him on edge like this before i should write a book on his behavior, how much can i take trying to help him he goes into some radge like he:s mad. im a clean not perfect person whom whem she was alive we kept a orderly run house. her family was raised like that. not his and im schocked. im afraid he would hurt me if i even through something out. what does anyone suggest. please im not really well my self but he can make things worse or more depressed. he thinks im his enemy. i could turn to hate him.

Answers:
Call your county health department and ask them about free counseling in your area. We have a place (near Salvation Army) in Florida -- they are very very helpful people.

Other Answers:
Links to local support groups and resources in the USA for people caring for someone with dementia or Alzheimers:

http://www.ec-online.net/Community/Neighborhood/neighborhood.html

A huge amount of information on getting through day-to-day tasks as a caregiver, as well as major stresses. It also has a "resources in the community" section for links to helpful organizations, and a "bill of rights" that I've pasted at the end of this answer:

http://www.ahaf.org/alzdis/about/adcare.htm

A series of articles for carers of people with dementia, including topics like how to take care of one's own needs, organizing activities, and how caring for someone with dementia may affect you:

http://www.disability.vic.gov.au/dsonline/dsarticles.nsf/pages/cc_dementia_carers?OpenDocument

Another site with tons of articles about issues facing caregivers of someone with dementia:

http://www.healthinsite.gov.au/topics/Carers_of_People_with_Dementia

Bill of Rights:

BE ANGRY. Turn this energy into positive action. Clean closets, take a walk, talk with someone.
BE FRUSTRATED. Stop the present activity, take a deep breath and begin a different activity.
TAKE TIME ALONE. A favorite chair in a quiet room, a trip to the store or a few hours out with friends.
ASK FOR HELP. Explore family, friends and local agencies for resource services. Most doctors' offices and clergy can make referrals.
TRUST YOUR JUDGEMENT. Relax, you are doing the best you can.
RECOGNIZE YOUR LIMITS. You are a valuable person. Take care of yourself, too!
MAKE MISTAKES. No one is perfect. This is how we learn.
GRIEVE. This is a normal response to a loss. You may be sad over the loss of the way things used to be.
LAUGH AND LOVE. It may seem out of place, but your capacity t6 feel is not gone and can occur unexpectedly.
HOPE. Tomorrow, the day may go smoother, a friend may call, a cure may be found.

I hope this info helps a bit. I know from personal experience how hard caregiving can be, how it can drain you and frustrate you to no end. For many, it is creating a network of friends, family, community organizations, and making sure to get personal time in which you can reward and pamper yourself, that gets people by.

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