Why won't my boyfriend have sex with me?

Question:

My boyfriend and I have been together 4 yrs. I'm 35 and he's 36.....we have NEVER had sex.....not even once. No, he's not gay....but he does smoke pot every single day. I have asked him about the no sex.....he swears up and down that until we have total financial stability he does not want to take a chance of me getting pregnant....when I bring up birth control he comes back with it's not 100%. But, I feel if he really believed that he'd be a 36 yr. old virgin and he indeed is not.......he's not affectionate what so ever....he says never has been never will be...he claims it will all come together when I am done with school (nursing) and we have the stability. I've told him I feel rejected, unattractive, unwanted and untouchable......he says if I love him I'll wait....otherwise do what I have to do.......I'm so confused and I feel like less of a woman......and I know he's not cheating because he never leaves the house. Is this medical? I need help....answers....something.

Answers:
There could be so many reasons on his part as to WHY he doesn't want to have sex. Perhaps he was sexually abused as a child or something... I don't know. But as, for YOU and your image of yourself, even though it's hard, I hope you don't let ANYONE else make you feel unattractive or small. People treat you the way they do because of who THEY are, not because of who you are. This is his thing, so put it back on him. Meanwhile, realize you ARE worthy of the total package when it comes to love.

maybe hes not in the mood

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