Why is it hard to get my erection back up, after it goes soft during sex?

Question:

i can get an erection very easily, but it goes soft during intercourse. when im getting head i stay hard, but after a couple minutes of actual intercourse i go soft (condom problem?). if thats not bad enough its very hard to get my erection back up after it goes soft.

Answers:
It could be anything from a problem caused by the condom to a lack of true interest in sexual intercourse.

Since you can maintain an erection for oral sex (and hopefully during masturbation too when done alone or your partner is doing it to you), then it probably isn't medical. So, I would first attack the possibility that the problem stems from a condom that is too tight or too loose or coated with a lubricant or spermicide that is causing some undesired reaction. To do this try all sorts of different condoms and even develop all sorts of wild and kinky ways for the penis to be encased. After all, half th epleasure of sex comes from foreplay and there's nothing like having yoru partner sensously putting on the condoms to enhance the foreplay.

If you eliminate the condom as being the problem, then it is the act itself that is not turning your crank sufficiently. This can be from
-you allowing your mind to wander (learn to concentrate),
- the act just not working (try all sorts of positions and venues for sexual intercourse to enhance the thrill),
- you not being turned on by your partner (well, I won't go there other than to suggest you both revert to when you were horny teens crossed with a good measure of mushy, spontaneous romantic notions),
- you putting pressure on yoru self to perform like a perfect sex machine (forget that, just relax and enjoy the pleasures and over time you will get to please both yoruself and your partner through practice not through willing it to be)

So, go wild, change positions, change venues, increase foreplay, try wild condoms, stay focused on the sex, and do it for the pure enjoyment both of you can have not to prove your manhood.

Could be performance anxiety. I don't think it has anything to do with condoms. Try a little foreplay when you go flaccid and see what happens.

oh dear! spice or sexuality maybe the simple answer.If you need to introduce something, like open air,or toys, or a.n.other,so be it.Oral tends to be for the male a dirtier,so sustaining sexual pleasure,boring old intercourse doesn't seem to be doing it for you.get her to talk dirty.OR of course you could be GAY!

one if your not maried..stop having sex tell you are..cuz thats just weak. honestly it shows no self control. If you are.

anxiaty could be one reason. another could be masturbation habits.they change the time and how you get to the point of orgasm. stop masturbating (if you are) for a long while (like ever) and after a while it might start going back to how it should.

Why is it hard to get my erection back up, after it goes soft during sex?

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