My boyfriend seems to have some problems.?

Question:

We are both 20. If I give him oral he comes, but when we have sex he usually starts out hard and goes soft after about 10 minutes, before either of us come. I dont know what the problem could be! He doesnt smoke or drink, and it's not excess masturbation before because I am with him! It is really upsetting me though! I dont think it is performance anxiety either. any thoughts?? it's HORRIBLE!

Answers:
First off how good of shape is your boy friend? Because I can tell you from experience that I recently gained and lost 20 lbs. I was just on a fast food things and drinking lots of beer, and I started to notice that my penis was not performing well anymore. It would get hard and then it would just go limp with out me being able to control it. Well fast forward a month and a half later I have lost the 20 pounds my abs are looking great and now that more blood gets pushed down there via my stomach muscles, I stay hard all the way through.

Tell him to start working out his stomach
kegal exercises are must.
This will help his problem.

He's just not stimulated by vaginal sex (with you at least). You just don't float his boat. He may be able to get through it by fantasizing about another woman (or maybe a man if he's bi).

There are other ways to make love. He can finish you off with a vibrator and you can give him hand relief; or you can give each other oral. This shouldn't be a major problem.

Honey. if he is able to come while having oral sex & unable to when making love, I'd say the problem is emotional. If he can't figure it out you guys should see a therapist.

Sounds like he's gay. you need a REAL guy.

try psicing it up with different thing! be a little verbal, talk dirty to him, break up the intercourse with intermittent oral to keep him hard, maybe purchase some toys, do something!

From what you describe I'd say it's a slight case of performance anxiety combined with insuffiecient foreplay and a lack of heightened sexcitement.. And it works both ways in case you want to ask. So heighten the sexcitement with all kinds of positions, foreplay and various sex techniques. Even change venues for sex and see how different places change responses. and sex toys are fun too; who knows how much mischief you two can get up to with a pair of vibrators - hehe.

In other words, get past the normal postion, the normal sex, the normal place and find all sorts of ways to really enjoy each other fully.

wat r u thinking r u like married and this is a disturbing question and maybe ur boyfriend doesnt have the hots for u anymore

maybe he isn't stimulated enough when he's inside you..

try moving erotically when he's inside you so that he is stimulated or try sensually touching him when he's inside.

SOmetimes, lack of sensual touching and stimulation makes him go soft as sex becomes sort of a routine.

Try out different positions or you could try abstaining from sex so that he hungers for more! :)

the more he worries the worse it will be, just enjoy sucking him off

My boyfriend seems to have some problems.?

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