why haven't me and my boyfriend had intercourse?
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There are more than a few possibilities.
The obvious answer is that he is gay, and not attracted to you simply because you are a woman.
But there may be other issues, instead.
You report that he does get hard during foreplay, and that he does at least seem to enjoy going down on you. Only that he is unable to maintain an erection during penetrative sex with you. Good signs.
You have not reported whether or not he is able to remain hard or have an orgasm when you go down on him. That would be helpful to know.
It would seem that he possibly has some fear of, or distaste for vaginal penetration.
There are at least two possible reasons I can think of for this – and perhaps a billion more that would make sense if we were to know all of the relevant details.
One possibility is that he is afraid of getting you pregnant. So fearful that his mind will not allow him to successfully penetrate you, so that he cannot successfully ejaculate inside of you either. If he can *** in your mouth – I would look more closely at this one.
A second option is more societal. If he sees you as pure, and undefiled, unlike the tarts pictures he has been looking at, and masturbating to in Iraq – then he may have a hang up about that – he may not want to be the one who makes you dirty or defiled. If he can’t *** in your mouth – or doesn’t even want you to go down on him – look in to this more. You might also look into this one if he is a bit of a neat freak.
I am sure that there are a billion other possibilities – and that one of them is right – based on his unique experiences and history. The good news is that because he is able to get hard, you know that this is all psychological. The trick then is finding the psychological key to unlock his dick.
Good luck.
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He just needs to ajust from being overseas. It might just take some time
give him one '' fluxetine 10mg '' one hour before start.
He's probably seen so much horror over there that his mind is in overload. If he's had friends killed there, he may have what they call "survivor guilt" and that's one reason he's having trouble performing--he's trying to understand his place in the universe. Also, he's been gone a long time and there are adjustments here at home he has to make. There may be obligations getting in the way that are putting pressure on his mind.
Why not start the dating process over to relieve pressure on both of you? Just go out for pizza or a movie, or whatever you did for fun. When you're home, cuddle on the couch and exchange gentle kisses. Don't try to rush into the bedroom. Take your time and build a sense of drama. Create moods--soft music he likes, candles or incense if he goes for that, maybe a new perfume for you.
If you're sharing the same house/apartment, at night curl up together in bed, exchanging soft kisses and endearments. Spend nights just falling asleep in each other's arms. Don't attempt to seduce him until he's ready to initiate it. If he fails, don't roll away in embarrassment for him or disappointment for yourself. He'll just feel worse. Smile and reassure him you have plenty of time.
You can try talking to him about his experiences in Iraq--but not too many pointed questions until you know what he wants to share. Just think how we were affected by media accounts here in this country. Imagine how it was to see it firsthand. If he's still reluctant, you may have to ask him about seeing someone at a military hospital, someone who may be able to relate to him. I know they have specially trained psychiatrists at different bases to deal just with this situation.
If God forbid, he does say he's not interested in you anymore, he may not necessarily mean it. It may be his manhood perceiving his sexual problems as a personal inadequacy. Some guys think that if the girl goes away so does the problem--but the embarrassment/humiliation/frus. will remain with him. Reassure him you'll be there for as long as it takes and you'll do whatever he needs to feel comfortable with himself.
God bless you both, I certainly hope it works out well for you.
maybe he is more comfortable in masturbating while watching porn movie.
you better tell him to stop it.
SWEET CHEEKS HES GAY IF HE CANT HOLD A ***** FOR A HOT GIRL LIKE YOU SAY YOU ARE..SO LEAVE HIM AND TAKE ME AND ILL POP A ***** THAT WILL LAST ALLLLLL NIGHT LONG
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