How do I tell my parent/guardian I am gay?
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In some cases you shouldn't, but if your parents can handle it I'd start with the one I felt closest to.
You could start off with something like, would you hate me if you found out I was gay.
Then hope your world doesn't fall to pieces.
well 1st you gotta sit down with them and then you tell them if they get mad at you tell them it makes you happy and they should be happy that your happy it might be hard at 1st but your famz are just gna have to gt use to it
~Michael~
Well,honestly I really don't know. How about trying to be straight again and then you won't have to tell your parent anything.
well if you are a guy you can just go up and say dont like girls i kinda like guys or if you are a girl you can say the same thing except just say i dont like guys i kinda like girls
A lot of people think their parents dont already know, but they usually do. A lot of times the best thing to do is not beat around the bush, but just come out at say it. It might be easier if you tell them one at a time, start with the one that would be most understanding. I told my mom first, and it took about a month for me to tell my dad, but it was a lot easier with my mom's support.
I don't know if you are boy or girl... If a girl - tell them your pregnant for about a week... then after they freak out about that tell them your not pregnant - your gay and they won't have to worry about you being pregnant again for a while..
If you are a boy, I would say you got a girl pregnant and let them blow up about that for a while - then tell them your gay and no chance of getting anyone pregnant.
Tell them the most traumatic thing you can then just say, no I just wanted to tell you I'm gay...
hi, i understand how hard it must be for you to tell your parent...take your time with them, sit down with them and let them know that you have something important to tell them and would like for them to understand. They shouldn't judge you, becuase this is what makes you happy...have your sister with you to ease things up (especially if she is supportive) good luck and let me know how things turn up
this is something that depends on your relationship with your parents, your age and how your parents normally respond to stressful situations. chances are, your parents have some idea of your sexual orientation, they are just waiting on you to admit it. if your parents are right wing, gay-hating types, this could be a little difficult. generally, sitting them down and talking to them in a respectful, semi casual environment is the best, at the house if they're cool, in a public place if you think they are going to flip out and fear for your safety. because of the reaction that many people have, you may need to make arrangements to stay with friends for a few days so they can "cool off" but you need to keep in mind that your parents love you, even if they get angry and react in a negative way, they do care about you. respect any of their wishes that you can without compromising yourself. good luck
They may know already but just afraid to actually believe it. Obviously it will be very hard for them to understand at first. Just sit down and have a face to face conversation with them. They may not understand why but no matter what they are your parents and they should love and accept you for who you are not for who you love. That is just my opinion. I wish you the best of luck!!
thats nasty but u really gotta stand up and be a man (uh yeah) grow some balls, and tell them your gay. i mean just do it.
Dont tell them untill ur on ur own because belive it or not there not gonna treat u the same
whenever you feel the time is right. or when u feel like ur ready
just tell your parenst you're a but pirate. :)
First, you're incorrect in thinking you've been gay for about one whole year. You've simply realized the truth of that fact about a whole year ago. One does not wake up one day and decide to be gay/lesbian. One just is gay or lesbian. You cannot go back to being "straight" as the one person answered. You can go back to "acting straight" but you'll end up unhappy. Now, to answer your question it would be easier to know how your sister found out. Did she know and ask you or did you just feel comfortable to tell her? Chances are good that your parent/guardian instinctively knows already. What you need to get beyond is your fear of rejection. You cannot choose who you are attracted to. You just are. If your parent or guardian loves you (and I am sure they do) they will either immediately accept it (and possibly tell you they already knew and was wondering why it took you so long to say something) or they will be angry, at first ,but they will come around.
You simply must pick the right time and place to bring up the subject and you'll know when that is. Do not choose thier birthday or other special occassion unless it is an occassion that is especially ment for you. But do it you must. Remember, what is really holding you back is your own fear of rejection. Get over that. Any rejection they show or verbalize is nothing but thier initial reaction based on thier own prejudices but, as always, when one must honestly come face to face with thier prejudice thier thoughts and attitudes change dramatically.
To show you what I mean, I have friends where the father was constantly talking about what they should do to people that are arrested for murder or killing someone else (even by accident). Then one day his son was arrested for killing his girlfriend in an automobile accident where they suspected drugs or alchol might have been a contributing factor. All of a sudden his view on what should be done with these people changed. My point, when something we think could never happen to us does then we think completely differntly about it. Don't judge or preconceive thier reactions just accept them as they come knowing that if they really love you they will accept you for who your really are.
With all that said, the answer to your question is this - be honest to yourself and to others and get beyond your fears of rejection. Do those and you'll be able to tell them when you know the time is right.
The best way is just to tell them. They may be upset for awhile but eventually it'll blow over. They need to realize that gay or not gay you still are the person they've known since you were born. Don't be afraid just do it they might already know. just curious how'd your sister find out?
i do not beleve that you are gay as you say.what do you think is gay .
I suspected you have been gay your whole life, not just one year. I did not tell my parents until I was grown and out of the house. I do not know if that was the healthy thing to do, but it is what happened. Honestly when it is time you will know, until then don't sweat it.
there are lots of way to do it but best getting advice from some one who knows what there talking about
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