Why is my fiancée's foreskin still attached and what can be done about this condition?
Question:
When he has an erection, shouldn't the foreskin come away from the rest of his member to expose the shaft? What is this condition and what can be done about it? How might it affect sex?
If you have any insight into this, I would really appreciate it.
Thank you!
Answers:
Some guys only show the head when they pull the foreskin back and some don't. Mine comes out about halfway when erect. Ask him if he can pull it back (he should be able to so he can wash under the foreskin anyway.)
i dont rly know but my guess is that he will have to be circumcized i am so i rly dont know but thats my advice sry
I was with someone that had not been circumsized and as far as the sex went, there was no problem. Some religions/customs do not "believe" in being circumsized. (for example:the guy I was with was from Greece) I really do not think it will affect sex.
For many uncircumsized boys, the foreskin is attached to the head of the penis. This condition is called "phimosis" if it continues into adulthood. If he doesn't have pain or repeated infections, it should be fine. Some people choose to leave it and some people choose to have the foreskin surgically separated from the penis.
Circumcision was actually done as a religious rite. Now it's done for hygienic reasons. Not every single guy has been circumcised. Adult circumcision has been done, but surely is VERY painful to say the least. Just think about waking up from having your labia minora trimmed.
I would suggest that he get circumcised.
He should be able to retract (pull back) his foreskin so the entire glans (penis head) can be exposed. It sounds like he either has adhesions (like you said) or a tight/narrow foreskin - a condition called phimosis.
Foreskin-to-glans adhesions are rare after puberty, but are common in young children. They usually resolve themselves. If your finacee has adhesions, there's a few things he can do. He could just move his foreskin around the glans without retracting it. By gently moving it around, it'll slowly detach the adhesions. Also, when he takes a shower/bath, he should pull back his foreskin as far as he comfortably can, and wash as much as he can with water and mild soap. Over time, this will also help to dissolve and break the adhesions. Lastly, he could go to a doctor and have the adhesions forced apart; I don't know if it's painful, but it's probably quite unpleasant. But at least it'll be over with.
If it's phimosis, where the foreskin opening is too tight/narrow, there are fortunately many treatments that'll "cure" the condition. The first thing he should try are called stretching exercises (see link 1 for good and detailed instructions). If after a month or so and there's little/no progress, he should ask a doctor about certain prescription creams that'll help loosen the foreskin (link 2, names of creams in one of the tables). In almost all cases of phimosis the above two treatments will work. While each alone may take up to 3 months, the two treatments can be combined to make things go faster.
He can (and you too) generally disregard any comments/opinions that suggests circumcision as the first/only treatment, as it's usually overkill. All the above treatments for both adhesions and phimosis will work, and generally work quite well for the majority of men. While sex will be okay as it is right now, it'll be much better for him (and you) if he's able to retract his foreskin (see remaining links).
An uncircumcised man should be able to pull his foreskin right back to expose the entire head and the groove behind it. It sounds as though your fiancee has adhesions which have persisted from childhood and they are preventing his foreskin from retracting. This is a condition called phimosis. It is serious and must be corrected before you have sex with him. The adhesions can be broken by a doctor, but the best way forward would be for your fiancee to be circumcised. Circumcised men experience better hygiene, health, comfort, appearance, self-esteem, freedom from smegma /smell and FAR better sexual sensation during intercourse for both themselves and their female partner. You really should encourage him to be circumcised - for his and your own sake!
When the foreskin is pulled back it is only supposed to expose the glans (head of the penis) not the shaft.
Some foreskins can be pulled back manually without pain but don't go back on their own. That's normal but if it's too tight to pull back a bit of regular stretching for a month or two will usually fix the problem faster and better than any surgery.
See the link below to my detailed instructions.
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