Why am I scared of intercourse?
Question:
There is no way I will get back with my wife. I am just waiting on the divorce. We have to wait a year before it can happen (state laws). She is living with her boyfriend who has got her addicted to coke. I dont mean the drink. I have custody of the kids. I guess I did not have enough info in my last question. Sorry and thanks for your answers.
Answers:
I think that you have a legitimate fear. You could do what my hubby did - get a vasectomy. It worked great and we couldn't be happier!! Especially since I don't have to use birth control anymore. And no, it didn't effect his sex drive at all - I think some people believe that but it's not true.
You need more time.
Well...I would say that if you dont trust condoms, or the female being on birth control, and you are absoutly sure that you do not want any more children...then I would get fixed. That would solve the issue in getting the girl prego.
You do need more time, and if you really don't want any more kids, then consider a vasectomy.
First off, I am sorry to hear of anyone losing a relationship. Its a hard hard deal. When my first wife and I separated and divorced, i was celibate for almost a year. I felt so crappy about myself that I was sure that no woman would ever want me for anything. My self confidence was in the toilet. If I read this right, you do not want any more kids. Is that right? Easy answer..have a vasectomy.. No pathway for the sperm means no babies. Thats what I did. It worked real good for me.
Explain your concern to your girlfriend and ask her to use birth control as well. If you use condoms and she uses the pill or some other birth control AS WELL then there is no way she can get pregnant. Given the situation with your wife it's very understandable why you would feel apprehensive. As a last resort you could also consider a vasectomy-that should put your fears to rest so you can relax and enjoy a healthy sex life. Good Luck-PS I hope your wife can shake her addiction for her kids sake.
well first of all make sure you are using your condoms. i am a woman and woman do funny things... just to be sure it is intact use your own
second of all most woman don't orgasm anyway from straight intercourse. how about mutual masturbation? i find it so sexy watching my man jack off for me.
or, you can make her *** in many ways. oral sex is nummy and if she needs penetration get a dildo.
there are other holes, what about anal penetration with lots of water based lubricant.
better yet why don't you ask her to blow you till you orgasm.
my partner loves this and we stay happy, and he doesn't stray.
i do it almost every night and he is so good to me. he really does deserve it.
my point is i think until your divorce and the boyfriend are out of the way and your settled maybe intercourse isn't going to happen.
i believe it will be okay and you aren't plagued with any problem physiologically, it's just you have so much going on in the mind.
try to relax and enjoy whatever it is comes easy it will remedy itself.
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