I would like some help please.?

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My grandfather passed away 6 years ago. I miss him something terrible He was My Daddy. Every scence he passed away, My family leves me out of things. I have oftin been left out on my birthday everything. He was the only one who knew me. Now that he is gone.. I am kinda lost. :( well anyway They go up to the Cementary about 2 hours away every Momoral weekend. I have only been once no one tells me there going. I Just found out there going on Sat. I talk to my family off and on all day and I found out they have been planing this all week. No one said anything to me about it. Like I said I have only been once. The only reasion I knew about it was they asked to use my vehical. and I said I was going to drive my mother through a fit and well I had to sit in the back seat of my own surban! She is not on my insurans. My insurance does not matter. but by god If I need to use her vehical I can not for I am not on hers! I am so upset and I feel so left out! Can any one help me figure out how

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Well, my father passed away, and my older sister did not take anyone's feelings into consideration. She is a nurse and death is natural and blah, blah, blah. I hated her with a passion, the way she treated everyone including my mom. I understand what you mean. Look at it this way. You can pay respects to your grandfather because he is watching over you right now.
Don't you think he knows what they are doing? Why would they drive 2 hours to visit a monument.
He is caressing you when you are sad.
Watching over you when you are lonely. Go where you and he used to go, visit his favorite places. Listen to his favorite old songs, that's your grandfather.
He is right there with you, now. His soul left his body and it is with you everyday.

P.S. When you go to the graveside with them, don't tell them our little secret.

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how about you tell them how you feel
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Tell them that YOU are driving YOUR suburban up to the cemetary, and even though they didn't take the time to mention their planned trip, (or ask to use your vehicle until the last minute) that they can "catch" a ride with you.

Stand up for yourself - It's YOUR vehicle!! If they don't like it - or, as you called it - throw fits - leave them at home and go on your own!! You certainly don't need your family to visit your grandfather's grave.

Good luck.

Losing someone you care for very much can feel like the lonliest place on earth. Significant grief lasting up to 3 years is not that rare, your grief seems to be still raw and new for you even after 6 years. This would be considered'abnormal grief.
How well did you interact with your family before you lost your Grandfather? Is this breakdown in family communication new or has it always been this way?
There are skilled agencies that can help and some pretty good books on abnormal grief which will also help you. It sounds to me that you need to seeking medical help at this stage. Your family doctor would be your first call they should then be able to refer you on. This isn't just going to go away, why should it? Your Grandad sounds like a really nice man. I am sure he wouldn't want this suffering and pain for you. Don't forget that you still have the wonderful memories of your years together, you family can never exclude you from those!Our knowledge and memories are the one thing that no-one can take from you. Go and talk to your doctor, if he can't help he will know someone who can.

first of all you dont need to be invited to go to the cementary . you can go without them.have you felt like maby they are leaving you out of things for a reason? maby you can tell us more stuff that would help out to understand the situtation.maby they get together and talk about you, but if you go they cant talk about you infront of your face.

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