How can I overcome my fear of public speaking and build confidence?
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Hi Circus,
You are describing me about 5 years ago.
I would panic if I had to speak in front of people.
But one thing got me started toward being able to speak . becoming convinced that what I had to say was important and that other people needed to hear it.
Before that, all I was thinking about was how I LOOKED, or how I SOUNDED, or how I WAS BEING PERCEIVED.
Do you see the difference ?
Before, I was thinking only about MYSELF, not the service I was rendering to others, and not their welfare.
I hope this helps you.
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jusy always be calm, and picture people naked
I put my faith in God. I still struggle with confidence and have a fear of public speaking. But God gives me the strength I need to get done what needs to be done.
Prayers to you and yours. <><
First of all, know that you are not alone. Fear of speaking in public is the #1 fear of most adolescents and adults. Life does not really prepare us for public speaking. If you were very lucky, you might have had a debate class in high school, or taken a couple of speech classes in college. Or you could have chosen a career, like being a teacher or college lecturer, where you simply have to speak in public every day.
A few hints:
1) Imagine everyone naked. The image is so over the top, so absurd, that you should laugh and that decreases stress.
2) Practice your speech in front of a mirror.
3) Roleplay in your mind, over and over, with various permutations, such things as job interviews, important information that you want to tell people at work or in your personal life, etc.
4) Join a Toastmaster group; they exist to help people speak in public, and they understand that people join groups like this so they can conquer their fear of speaking in public.
Good luck. I'm sure you'll succeed. Cheers, K
The fear of speaking in front of people is actually one of the top fears documented in the WORLD!! You have to look at yourself and learn to love/accept yourself. When YOU know for yourself that you are somebody worth listening to, then nobody should have enough power to put you down. Don't think the worse.know what you're talking about, exert yourself, and learn to NOT let people get to u.
Take a public speaking course in school. The first couple of times you have to speak in front of the class is nerve wracking.for everyone. After a few classes you will enjoy getting up there. It really builds up your self confidence.
Although there are loads of books written specifically for this, here's my two-penny worth:
1. Prepare your talk thoroughly
2. Speak with the knowledge that you are prepared to speak about the topic. This will boost your confidence.
3. The fear is momentary. It will vanish in a flash.
4. Try putting someone from your side in the audience and look at them while giving your speech. Their positive reactions will drive you on.
I'm kind of the same way, its like being traped with in your self. I'm so quite on my Job interviews I'm shocked when anyone does give me a job. Then when I get a job people keep asking me why I dont talk more. And dating is hell for me, its hard for me to talk someone I like with out thinking is he gonna hate me, think I'm idiot. In classes where I had to do a speach I would just not show up that day. Also I took a public speaking, and it did not help but I took an acting class and it helped my confidence some.
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i would masterbate in a public place because after that everythign else will be easy. Do it somewhere you will run into people you know. Trust me this will work.
Practice, practice, practice - join a club of some kind that involves getting up and speaking in front of people, or volunteer as an 'organizer' for an event. Take a speech class in a local community college. You can picture people nakid all you want, but it doesn't do any good if you don't practice speaking in front of people.
You just need to practice it in front of people and get used to it. I used to have stage fright before performance too, but after a while it disappear.
Try small group of people first, like your own family or close friends. Then gradually go to large group of people to speak and act.
It takes courage to talk in front of people, and it will increase as you do it one speech after another.
Don't be afraid, don't worry about if it would turn out bad. Its the experience that counts, try to learn something from each session. You'll feel fine bit by bit after each session.
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