I need help from men who were molested as children. Problem with my boyfriend?

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I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 and a half months. When we first got together he was very interested in sex and aggressive about it. After a month or two his interest wained. I almost always have to initiate it and he says no about 70 percent of the time. I am pretty sure he isn't sleeping with anyone else because he's with me almost all of his free time. He practically lives here. He told me he was molested as a child by his mother's boyfriend. I am wondering if this could have to do with his difficulty in being more sexual as we get closer. It seemed to start when we got more emotionally involved. Everything else in the relationship is good and we are rather close. He assures me he finds me attractive. I've tried to get an explanation out of him and all he has said is that this happens with every girl he's with for awhile. HELP! I'm going nuts here!

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Aww! This is soo sad. No advice really. But if you really love him, sex will not be an issue.

Better take him to some counseller for some session and get the thing out of his mind. People get hurt later when they are molested in their childhood.But I am not sure if that would hurt his sexual capability now.

well i've never been molested but maybe his sex drive just isnt as strong as yours.

I'm not a guy, but I can tell you that he has no explanation for this, so you might as well quit asking. He does sound like he has some issues, and maybe he should see a therapist.

I too have been molested as a child. I have overcome the issues and now i am engaged.
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Is he depressed?. Is he overweight bad? Chemical embalance?

Meds? Antidpessants? high Blood Pressure? Bipolar?

yes i got the answer. first of all u didnt say what is the age of urself and your boyfreind .and then u didnt say where he stays and whether he stays really close to u. i think his interest in u has wained a lot like everyother guyz.u said that he assumes u to be find attractive but u r not absolutely sure about it. u guyz r in a stage where u have to think beyond sex and xplore the guy behind ur boyfreind . he wants to switch off from this current relationship. he is really feeling insecure. first know him better and then only he will come close to u. boyz always look for multiple relationship .it has to go with a boyz ego.how many girlz one can make . so try to get him interested in yourself rather than your body.

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