Is there something wrong with me?

Question: I have this little problem. Its just I hate being touched, well more I don't like showing affection. I mean, even in school, if someone comes to give me a hug, like afriend even, I cringe and back away. I just hate hugging or holding hands.Even when someone tells me like they love me (a friend), or if they give me a compliment, I don't even know what to say. Only onn thing stays in my mind, and thats Ew. My girlfriend came to give a hug once, and when she came towards me I backed away. I don't know, it just disgusts me. When people try to hug me all I want to do is just cringe. Like, i just feel awkward, in publis and even when privatly, where no one can see me but them. I think some of it might be that i'm a little bit of a germaphobe and I don't exactly have the highest self-esteem or respect for myself.. I don't even drink out of the same glass as my sister. I don't know if this is just a phase. if other people go through this to, or if there might be a reason I act like this.

Answers:
There is no such thing as 'normal'. You are just more sensitive and it is your personal way of living. When it comes to affection, you will probably have a much more intense enjoyment WHEN YOU CHOOSE TO DO SO. Don't let others rule how you 'should' feel about hugs and things. You feel the way you feel. You should just acknowledge it to yourself and try to work it into your life however you can. Don't worry about being 'different'. People who are different are the ones that make life interesting. If everyone was 'normal', there would be no need for so many of them.

Other Answers:
You're insecure. I'm a lil bit of a germaphobe too. I wash my hands after I touch just about anything. And when I see people take their coffee cups or dough nuts into the restroom with them, I literally get chills and shiver for a second. It's just the way we are.

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well,, I am worse than u, but i have to accept hugs and kisses as i am a grown man-and i have social obligation, but u see , i wish i never hug or kiss anyone (or maybe i should medical test him /HER first ,,and because i can not , i learn to accept that, and then i have all the medical material which i use, starting from antibiotic, anti viral, alcohol ,beta din vitamin,.etc, do u know how many diseases ,u can get by a kiss ??some of them are life time diseases not curable, and can kill (like herpes)..do u know how many diseases u can have from a hug??,,,
In ur life u have to accept this kind of social habits ,but in a very narrow scale ,and from few people whom u know well ,,so u do not attract a disease because a kiss .do not worry u r right and the rest are wrong.
Source(s):
trying to be" not sick "in a world floating in a sea of diseases

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I used to be a bit phobic, and I still am not comfortable with casual contact. But I am wrong, and so are you. The reality is that germs aren't that big a deal. What are you afraid of? Getting sick? I doubt it. You have an irrational phobia and this one sucks because it is great to hug and touch. There is so much more bacteria on you and in your mouth and in your skin than there is around you, the toilet seat should be afraid of you. I suggest you start by drinking from the same glass as your sister. Nothing is going to happen. YOu need to train yourself to get over this heebie jeebie, and fight for that slice of happiness. It's worth it.

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