Why cant I stop hurting myself??
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I am not 18 anymore but by 18.lets say that I had seen my share. A good deal of the things that went on in my life before that time I looked at as being my fault. Some of them were and some of them were not and none of it matters after it's said and done and thats the honesty of it. Everyone tends to be harder on themselves then they would be on other people. You are in no position to judge what you have done.nobody is. If this was a court of law you would be on trial, the lawyer, the judge and the jury.
As someone who has had my share of.hard times I am curious as to what you think you need to be punished for. As someone coming from that I don't expect you to tell me. I will say this. Nothing you have ever done in your life, nothing that has ever happened to you can be so bad that you should take judgement of your actions into your own hands. You are not alone, the number of people hurting themselves is huge and it's something that may follow you for life if you don't seek treatment. After awhile people like you stop talking about it and just keep it a secret. I have read your other questions, I really think you doing this to yourself makes you feel even more alone and like an outcast. Please talk to a counselor if your parents won't understand. I know how it feels I never thought my life could change for the better so drastically. Its been 7 years. You will get through this.
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I think you might need to seek professional help such as a pyschologist or psychiatrist they can be able to help you with your feeling of being at fault and help you to stop cutting
it may not sound like the best answer to you but if there is a older person like a parent, or an aunt or something you should try talking to them, having someone to talk to always helps. and, if that doesnt help, you could always see a therapist or if youre really serious about your problem try going to a rehab of somesort.theyre sure to help
talk to someone really close to you. like a best friend or your parents..whoever you trust the most. ask them to keep an eye out for you and to go with you to therapy.
I always find it easier to do something if someone is there with me. that way I don't feel so alone.
i've been there. on a physical level: cutting causes the body to release chemicals that make you feel better. but ultimately, its just an unhealthy way of dealing with the bad situations in life. i would suggest seeking professional help, or at least talking to someone in your life about it.
if you need someone outside your life to talk to: email me.
lauriepats@yahoo.com
thinkin happy thoughts your way m'dear.
PS- it is NOT a sign of bipolar disorder. its a sign of depression, but you have to have manic phases to be bipolar- which you did not describe.
Consult a psychologist as soon as you can. These are symptoms of bipolar disorder.
As was mentioned, the first step is to confide in a mature person who you trust, preferably your parents. You might also try to understand why you cut yourself. It usually is a way to cope with stress or anxiety. The cutter uses physical pain to deal with emotional pain. Ask yourself:
What purpose does self-injury serve fore me? What am I thinking when I cut myself? Obviously, you haven't gotten over whatever you have been dealing with. Having a person to confide in and talk to will really help.
PLEASE you have to talk to some one. Call a hotline or something. You can't keep cutting your self. If you need some one to talk to then talk to me. I will be here for you. Click on my pic and get my email address. I want to talk.
Man is the best creation of God. He can do whatever he likes. U must have strong believe in yourself that U can overcome it and U must read holy book it will give U mental peace and confidence
You need to seek proffesional help sweetheart. I know how hard things can get, but don't let them get to you.Above all DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF for things going wrong.I also have some issues and I know what it's like.Talk to someone who can help you, and all the best.
Telling yourself that you are over something doesn't do any good. Usually it makes it worse. And to over use an analogy, it bottles up a lot of sadness and anger towards people in your past and it gets directed inwards. Cutting both hurts and feels good. The pain relieves a sense that you deserve this. And it makes you feel an unfiltered emotion. And in a way it is a way to express all that is going on inside of you when it get's to be too much.
I would say write letters to those people in your past that cause you troubles. You don't have to send them or plan on it. Or you can, but don't leave anything out of them. Say everything that you feel. The anger sadness and guilt of it all. You can burn them when you are done with them if you don't want them read. You will find alot of ideas that were inside of you that wouldn't have been clearly thought out in your lifetime when you read them.
And after that, confronting people clears things up to an incredible degree. But I would recommend having a psychologist that has experience with your particular problem to talk with during the process. They can help you to think clearly and give you a safe place to feel what you need to feel.
STOP. Seek professional help. NOW!
don't think about cutting. think about that your problem. if you don't have somebody to talk it out, write it down. keep a diary. think about it. know yourself better. release the pain or anger through art. and try not to hurt yourself. only you can help yourself. no one other. i mean it. know it from my personal experience. if what, write me.
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Because you're not ready to. I havn't hurt myself in almost 2 years. I tried countless times to stop before then; I read self-help books, I called helplines, I wrote to agony aunts. everything except face-to-face help. In the end, I didn't stop until I learned that the things that had happened in the past wern't my fault and that I did not need to feel guilty about them. I started to talk about my negative experienced. Now when something goes wrong, I still feel scared, like everyone does, and I still get the urge to hurt myself, but i've learned to undergo the thinking process of 'I could hurt myself, but then i'd feel bad, i've come this far so I know I can stick it out; i'm worthwhile and there's no point hurting myself 'cause somewhere in this big world there's someone that would hate to see any part of me in pain.'
I didn't really get over it until someone else showed affection towards me and I realised that I meant something to someone.
I think things like this vary from person to person, depending on why you harm yourself. If you think you need proffetional help, don't be afraid to seek it, but if you dont think it's right for you, then I dont think you should be forced into getting help. I pulled through alone because it was what was right for me.
I know tons of cutters, so I know what your going through. When they want to do stuff like that they call me, so you can call one of your close friends, or you can write, or you can snap a rubberband on your wrist, draw red lines. You can also talk to a counselor,one at school or one you see even longer. Either way it still helps to talk about this stuff.
your probably mad or frustrated :(
It's really really hard to stop cutting, I know I have been through it. I suggest seeking professional help somehow. Cutting can be a sign of something more serious, such as Borderline Personality Disorder. But it doesn't have to be, it can just be all on its own. There are online support groups and plenty of books written. But you really should talk to someone, preferably a professional who can help you. My therapist helped me, thanks to her it has now been 6 months since the last time I cut.
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