How do I tell my parents that I self mutilate without them getting mad at me? I'm 13 1/2 if that helps.?
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Of course they'll be mad, put your self in their shoes, they'll feel that they failed as parents when you tell them so make sure you let them know why you're doing it and if your parents had nothing to do with it (they usually don't) than please make sure you tell them how good parents they are and that that was a desicion you made and has nothing to do them, that will making feel a little more confortable, so plan it, think about when, where and how are you going to tell them, maybe sometime after dinner or even before, believe me the sooner you do it,the sooner you'll feel better and it may take some time for them to realize the is just a kids thing now to harm themselves for personal pleasure but they'll get it, I'm sure they'll understand, 'cause that's what parents do, and when you do tell them please be patient and give them time to swalow the news. I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD, YOU'LL NEED IT AND BE STRONG 'CAUSE EVEN THO YOU'RE ONLY 13 (almost 14) YOU ARE ALREADY DOING THE RIGHT THING BY TELLING SOMEONE (well I think is a little more than just someone) ANYWAYS "CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR FIRST STEP TO WOMANHOOD" PS: WE HAVE ALL BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT IN DIFERENT WAYS. :-)
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I think you should tell them right away, be open and honest, and tell them that you need help and you're scared. You shouldn't be doing this, and they may not be happy, but they need to know. Please tell them soon. Even if they do get angry, they need to know, and they will also be concerned and upset (hopefully) - although none of us know your parents, and the kind of people they may be.
If you cut yourself enough, eventually they will know it.
They will not be angry, they will be concerned about you. This is something you need to seek help for, and they will help you to do that. Please tell them right away.
1st stop doin dat next surely tel dem
de might get angry
but it will help believe me
tel me also aftr u do so
thnx
hey i think u should first off by tellin how your life is going.then lead to that , also tell them why u feel like doin this
the best thing u do is to tell them the truth.
cause they r ur parents.
There is NO way that your parents won't be mad because I'm sure that they will be furious and also concerned. You need help, self mutilation is not right.
You cut/ mutilate because you have seen it on tv and in the media and think it is the coolest way to reach out, or be part of a group, this is all part of being 13, trying to fit in with others. You are trying to get someones attention, maybe even your parents, there are much better ways to get attention, and ones that don't make people think you are just a stupid little kid looking for attention online.
I'm a dad. My daughter is 14. Believe me, they won't be angry, they will be terrified and sad and concerned, but not angry. They will be so glad that you have been brave enough to tell them and desperate to do all they can to help. So go now, walk in and say, "I've got a real problem and I can't cope with it alone and I need you to help me.'' And they will. You've been so brave to come this far. Go one more step.
they will be disappointed, they might be mad even that you want to hurt yourself, but it wont be mad at you - they will feel like they did something that caused it. a good way for you to make sure they dont get mad is to tell them that you want help to stop (near the beginning of your talk) Its very good of you to want to talk to them about it, it is the first step in getting past it. You should do it as soon as possible - they (if they are mad to start with) will quickly be relieved that you want to stop, i'm sure they will only want you to get better as soon as possible, i know i do.
I had the same problem. It should go something like this. "Mom, Dad, I need to talk to you about something very important that I need your help with. I know you may be upset with me, but I wanted to tell you that I cut myself. I do this because.(fill it in).. and I need your help to stop".. and go on from there.
They may be upset, but you need to talk to them and you need to get help as soon as possible.
Tell them your scared of yuor feeling and yu don't know ho wto handle some pressures but have found what you know is a bad fix, explain how you know how mutilation to ourself is bad but you can't help it..It's like a drug..
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http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self-mutilation/AN00396
Please tell them as soon as possible. Tell them that you need help, and want to stop doing this. Tell them you need thier support and love.
I agree. You should tell them as soon as possible. Most likely, remember that their anger is really only masking a deeper concern for you that they may not be able to show right at that moment. Tell them, be honest, stick to your guns and ask for help. Most likely, you're making more out of their response then what they'll actually do. Remember you're their daughter, they love you and care about your well being. Get help together as a family, be smart, suggest family counciling so you can all work this out.
Take heart, acknowledging the problem is the hardest part of the battle.
Good luck girl!
Umm. sweetheart look tell your parents, and ask them for understanding. If you feel you have a problem or whatever ask them for help. They may be disapionted at you, But they love you and they will help and understand. Good luck, and take care.
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I have 2 kids my self.
Do you think they would allow you, if you ask them, to seek counseling? I think that is your best bet, a counselor would be someone who is not emotionally involved in your life and who could offer you some sound advice and concerns regarding your life events and what has been happening to make you feel like harming yourself. Please get yourself some help, one way or another! It is important to take care of you.
you need to go to a school cousler right away
Honey - you need to tell you parents, and wanting to tell them is a fabulous thing. And doing it will take a lot of courage. I don't think your parents will be mad at you at all - they will probably be worried about you.
Many other people do what you do - you are not alone. But it isn't good for you. You need some help =- and your parents are the best people for the job.
Perhaps if you go to your parents and ask them for their help with this, it will get you a more positive reaction than the one you fear. MAybe a friend will sit with you to help you through it.
Good luck. Please get help - it sounds like you know you already need it - and it sounds like you know what to do.
You have to tell them, they could help. It has to come from you heart. They might be mad at first but they will realize that you need help. You shouldn't be afraid to tell them anything. Just say : Mom, Dad I need to speak about something important.They will obviously ask you what and you should come out with it.
Yes Honey, Tell your parents they will want to help you! If you are uncomfortable telling them,tell a Aunt or Uncle or a teacher. They will help you! Please tell someone!! You do need help, and that is OK we all need help once in a while.
Do not feel ashamed! Good Luck !!
Your parents are going to get mad no matter who they are, sorry. There is no real way to tell the people who created you,gave you breath, put you on this earth that you are causing harm to yourself. Whether you are suicidal or not I don't know you didn't say, But I know lots of people who have tried to tell their parents that they did that. And their parents freaked.Hopefully your parents aren't gonna flip out on you that bad, because most people should know that the best thing to do is to act mature and respect the situation, because you don't want to send the person off running for a razor blade if they get offended or mad that they told you. So I just hope you can look at it from both points, make sure your ready for every possible thing they can say to you because you know your parents best, so I can't help you on that end. Just calmly say I need to talk to you both at the same time, and get them at the dinner table with you alone, or have a friend over (only if they know you cut) that way your parents can take this in a little easier because they have company, plus they will try to hold back, or they will think about it, or the y will say will talk about this later.I help lots of people with depression and suicide, you can contact me if you'd like someone to talk to, if not that's fine.
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