How can a couple achieve a sober life together?

Question:

My bf and I have been a couple for nearly ten years, we have kids together and we are close, close, close (in all the good ways and lots of the f&^$%d up ways). In fact, we are also meth addicts. Apparently that combination of traits puts us in the group of people who are LEAST LIKELY to acheive and maintain sobriety. Why is that and do you think that that's true? How can a couple increase their odds of success?

Answers:
You can look at it two ways. You could see that a couple who are both addicts are more likely to remain addicts because you have two people with the same problem and if one fails at giving up, the other is likely to fail too. Maybe one person in the couple doesn't want to give up as much as the other? That would present a pretty big problem as well.

Or you can look at it another way. You are in a very close relationship. You can build on and increase this closeness by developing a joint goal to beat this addiction - TOGETHER. You can use your love for each other to help each other through and stop harming yourselves and you can both unite in your love for your children - you can do this as parents. I personally believe that the closeness and solidity of your relationship and love for your children is the most solid foundation you could possibly have for beating this. good luck.

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Youa can have a successful life on methadone. You just need to drop the "addict" mentality. I have been an addict for 15 years and am extremely successful and happy with my life.

My best guess would be to attent a rehabilitation clinic. I know several people who have gotten positive results.

Here an idea thats way out there. Stop putting meth in your pipe (or what you use to smoke it) and stop putting the meth in your body. I really cant think of any other way. Just stop. There are countless and endless things that will make you happy, and to choose drugs out of the lot is beyond me. Dont do it for you boyfriend or your kids, you need to do it all for yourself.

You want to be successful? Stop doing Meth! Especially if you have kids. Jesus Christ, your kids are going to grow up to be addicts just like you! Give your kids a chance and stop doing drugs. The money you save can be used to put your kids through college.

Don't be stupid! Stop drinking and get some help for your addictions before you lose everything you have, if you haven't already! There are all kinds of agencies that can help. You obviously don't want to quit or you would.

If you wanna know the truth my husband and I have been down this road and are both now clean and still together.

If you wanna know the truth of how we made it thru all of the BS it was forgiveness. We had to forgive ourselves for the stupid chit that went on while we did the drugs and then we had to forgive each other. Love endures much but what it don't forgiveness will! Good Luck.

Find a good 12 step meeting that you each enjoy.They say that once people are sober that they are totally different and that is why it won't work,that's not true!You should work out and have a better relationship because you understand each other better. As long as you love each other sober and during the hard times ahead you'll be fine!Good Luck and Hang In There!Don't forget to pray!!

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